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Foryourpleasure - 01 Oct, 2024 - 09:14PM

I use an ice axe !! sorry I couldn't resist that . I know its a serious matter but I like to think comedy can help ease peoples tension. But what do I know ??

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FromRoss - 01 Oct, 2024 - 03:20PM

Carefully read the profile and details before you write. Try and use a subject line that might interest the prospective partner you’re writing to (I think sometimes messages with boring subject lines will never get read)

Match the tone of the profile you’re writing to, match humour with humour, seriousness with seriousness.

Try and ask relevant questions that the other person might be inclined to answer and thus lead into a conversation (a bland introduction has no real path to chatting).

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bluemountain2024 - 22 Sep, 2024 - 11:42AM

I think there is no “one size fits all” approach to this as everyone is receptive to different things. Like most people have said, just be yourself and make it personal by actually reading their profile. No one wants generic emails.

Micky_london - 20 Sep, 2024 - 04:32PM

Should you or should you not include pics password in the first message?

Cecil1980 - 19 Sep, 2024 - 09:10PM

Just be yourself…..simple things like being able to chat and laugh together right at start from just talking about each other.

Just joined so I’m hoping it works haha

MellowMax71 - 18 Sep, 2024 - 06:43PM

I like to break the ice by driving a large vehicle onto it - ideally with a load of bodies in the back for extra weight. Metaphorically at least. ;-)

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MellowMax71 - 17 Sep, 2024 - 11:30PM

Hardly anything seems to work these days. People used to have a sense of humour - even as recently as three years ago!

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MagicMouse321 - 17 Sep, 2024 - 01:13PM

For men I guess I would recommend showing confidence without showing arrogance - demonstrate you know what you’re doing.

Personal without being a private eye - demonstrate you’ve read their profile and that you have something in common.

Show fun, without trying to be funny - show you have the need to have some fun out and about not with jokes that backfire. Sarcasm doesn’t come across online!

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marklondonengland - 17 Sep, 2024 - 12:41PM

This reminds me of another discussion here about the "best chat-up lines..."
If you read a profile, find something interesting and then ask the person about that subject then what could be better? Nobody wants a generic "Hey..." message, but if you have clearly read the profile and are interested in the person because of it then you will probably start a conversation - even if you don't click. I don't know why there is this endless debate around chat-up lines or conversation starters - as if there is some generic line that undresses every person you talk to...

Kinky1973 - 17 Sep, 2024 - 11:42AM

Some profiles are very thin on the ground and it doesn’t give you a clue what to say as an opener but others are well written and interesting. Those are easier to reply to as you have something in common or you are at least interested in the person not just where they live and their body.

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