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Cocoplums27 - 26 May, 2020 - 04:16PM

They are desperate , which could make you very powerful... I should keep them both if it’s worth my while

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Dreamtime - 26 May, 2020 - 12:41PM

If anyone who haven't met asks to be exclusive then there is a, serious likelihood of them being insecure controlling or jealous or inexperienced. Or they sense you are desperate (irrespective of the truth).
Don't meet them.

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1318608 - 26 May, 2020 - 12:14PM

I suppose if that is what these particular men are seeking then it’s not unreasonable to lay out their needs/wants.

1323413 - 26 May, 2020 - 08:52AM

Be exclusive... blimey so hypocritical when we are on here potentially being unfaithful in the first place!

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tea_coffee_me_ - 25 May, 2020 - 11:30PM

"pkash78 -.... non-monogamous nature of humans. I don’t believe we are unfaithful.. unfaithfulness is a term invented by society, religion, the institution of marriage, and civilisation/ government ."

I think there is more to it than that, and with life SO complicated.
I married and yes just wanted the two of us, to build a life, home, family, security.
As many of our life spans are 70 years plus, it needs to be planned for.

Many of us do want a home and security and for that home to be paid off so less worry as we are older.
Many of us do want to raise children and having consistent parents there for them helps their security etc.

I know what it has been like for my children and I, for their father to move on and leave us financially struggling and for their father not to care about them etc
(Some people are widow(ed), that is not the parent caring or transferring their love elsewhere though).

Many different ways of life can work well.

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Happy fun times - 25 May, 2020 - 10:04PM

The word exclusive so early before meeting send alarm bells!

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Happy fun times - 25 May, 2020 - 10:00PM

I would never ask anyone to be exclusive if I haven’t met them! That’s a bit full on I think :)

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pkash78 - 25 May, 2020 - 09:41PM

The only reason one has to stick to one.. lack of time to talk / nurture another.. if you both have time.. you can talk to as many partners as you want..

Being exclusive is a choice between both, rather than the norm or the obligation..

pkash78 - 25 May, 2020 - 09:37PM

@Bugwithone

It may be politically incorrect to say it.. or it may piss off prospective encounters (by the way I haven’t been lucky yet with any of the women here, for 2 years now on this site), but nevertheless it is the truth.. the scientific truth.. from an anthropological point of view.. it is the pure fact..

pkash78 - 25 May, 2020 - 09:33PM

@Bugwithone

I know it may sound different.. awakened to admit:. But it is the undeniable fact / truth.. most of our human history , humans were polygamous.. some ancient societies , women would have multiple partners .. it is the patriarchal society and the introduction of religion post civilisation (last 2000-3000 years only) that changed that into a territorial male dominating society..
but human history spanning more than 120000 years we lived a completely natural life, with multiple partners.. that is how we transmitted our genes and maintained our species.. denying this won’t change who we are .. or how we evolved.. unchanged / untainted tribes in central Africa or the islands in the Pacific still live this life with no notion of infidelity or monogamy..