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Old Sapper - 17 Dec, 2021 - 07:29PM

goodoldfashionedloverboy - 17 Dec, 2021 - 07:20PM

"...thinking of dipping my toe again"

Your TOE? Are you sure you're doing it right?

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1489489 - 17 Dec, 2021 - 07:20PM

I met someone on here 3 years ago, we spent a lot of time messaging at first and things were hot enough without even meeting. We agreed to meet for a drink one lunchtime in the summer. Just for context, both ordinary people with good, responsible jobs, but the moment she got out of her car and I walked over to her, it just clicked and we were all over each other, we both felt such an intense connection. We were so desperate for sex we drove out for a bit (very out of character), but nowhere suitable. We soon met again in a more intimate setting and worth the wait. On and off for a couple of years after that. Stopped a year ago, now as you see from my profile, thinking of dipping my toe again

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Handsomeman1974 - 16 Dec, 2021 - 06:15PM

If thats what you are looking for I guess you will find it quick enough
Its not about long it takes to find
More how long it lasts when you get it ;)

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1489085 - 16 Dec, 2021 - 04:02PM

Like others, I have had a few first dates since originally joining IE.
Have I ever been tempted to speed things along on the same day? Yes, several times. Encouraged to do so? Sure. Even challenged? Once.
Have I actually done it? Never. Not a chance.
The stronger the attraction, the deeper the excitement, the closer the connection, the less I want to rush things. Should one sip or gulp down his glass of wine? No right answer. And it changes with the wine.

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1481947 - 14 Dec, 2021 - 05:56PM

As quick as you like .. you can tell within minutes.. seconds even , if the meet is going to end up with some sexy fun. Car sex as an adult is far more fun than it was as a teenager.

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Breakfastinbed - 14 Dec, 2021 - 04:07PM

Feel your way, it should become apparent if both are interested. Let the lady make the first move or give a signal.

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1479770 - 14 Dec, 2021 - 12:54PM

I always go with, meet for a cuppa and then meet up after for sex.
It can be really intense when chatting before first meet.
I tend to find, the newbies at this get so Randy, they'll jump straight into bed. The ones that have done this for a while, take it easy.

I will always say, I will work with what you feel safe with and will never be pushy.

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Paula99 - 14 Dec, 2021 - 11:15AM

In some cases if the sex is red hot all the time then it's hard to sustain that intensity...the relationship tends to burn out very quickly...😕

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kinghoy44 - 13 Dec, 2021 - 10:50PM

I guess it depends on how quickly you feel there’s a connection. Or how randy you both feel, in another answer. There are no hard or fast answers, to to speak, right?

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Andyoxf - 13 Dec, 2021 - 10:50PM

All of my long term relationships became sexual on the first date. Most of those which didn't became just friendships or we didn't meet again. I can think of hardly any exceptions.

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