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1408586 - 17 Jun, 2023 - 12:08PM

Great posts Paula and Dotty 🥹

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1529050 - 17 Jun, 2023 - 11:48AM

I could not agree with Paula more.

Think I’ve said a million times before .. your IE’s family will always come first … no matter what lines they spin you.

I’ve seen so many fall hard and deep for their affair then be utterly devastated when it ends (it will end)

Each affair makes you stronger.

I know the longevity of these affairs so I’ll just enjoy every second of the ride. I have feelings for my IE but for me it’s not love - great friendship and huge lustful sexual feelings.

Easy to give advice as you get older and wiser …

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Paula99 - 17 Jun, 2023 - 07:00AM

Sandypops…..

You will be surprised how many of us have /are in the same situation as you …I don’t think I would have got so far if it wasn’t for the forum…
I have had a couple of successful affairs one with full on emotion/connection /chemistry to just a sex arrangement and you are right it does upset your world when it ends..
The longer your affair lasts …yes it’s all good …but when it ends you feels like a bereavement..then you pick yourself up and your next ‘relationship’ is slightly different..you learn to ‘hold back’ and when it ends and he gives you the old schpeal that he needs to spend more time with his wife then you are prepared and it’s ‘his loss’ …
You will find at some point he will return and contact you expecting you to ‘pick up’ where you left off ….that’s your cue to either make the rules on your terms or tell him to fuck right off 😊

Hope this helps

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Sandypops - 16 Jun, 2023 - 05:13PM

@LG
how did you get through it?

1447655 - 16 Jun, 2023 - 04:09PM

Been there sandypops, been there...xxx

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Sandypops - 16 Jun, 2023 - 02:32PM

@Beckysharp
It appears not 🤦🏻‍♀️ possibly my last one but I ended that. I still see him weekly as I give his wife horse riding lessons and he's struggling with it having ended

@ Dotty Green
OMG really! That's awful of admin!
I can talk to my bestie in real life but she can compartmentalise this and have fun, without feelings. And she doesn't limit herself to one man.

I don't really want to go into details on here, incase he sees where my head is. And yes, if he sees this maybe he'll ask questions.

🤦🏻‍♀️ debating if I'm mentally strong enough for this.

🤯💥

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1529050 - 16 Jun, 2023 - 12:20PM

Sandypops - 16 Jun, 2023 - 05:51AM

I did reply earlier but admin seemed to no allow it...

Why not post your dilemma here, as women are not allowed to message each other so this is the only place you can see our responses, as we can't be personal Agony Aunts

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1408586 - 16 Jun, 2023 - 10:28AM

You mean you’ve never had a true connection with an affair before Sandypops?

Enjoy the highs (although sadly the lows are inevitable 😭). But if you both feel the same it could last years…

Sandypops - 16 Jun, 2023 - 05:51AM

Anyone on here have the time, patience and energy to sort my brain out please? Or rather what is left of it?
I've had affairs, flings or whatever they'd be classed as, before. But none of them has been after making a mental connection via an online site. Nothing has quite prepared me for the head-f*#¥ I'm experiencing at the minute. Help. I know the rules but Christ this is hard.
If you think you're a real life agony Aunt or Uncle, please message me.
Thanks

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Barry198 - 01 Jun, 2023 - 07:11PM

Friendship actually. I believe there is a range of love and emotions and there can be great sexual chemistry and friendship between two people who enjoy one another’s company.