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Jay122 - 23 Sep, 2023 - 01:25PM

I think it’s all so subjective. Just as in the sexy text debate, the very same ‘sexy’ words to one receiver would send them running like a firework had been ignited between their cheeks’ and those same words would have another’s head spinning and fingers tapping in response like a sprinter on fast forward’’.
Casual’ for me is more of a relationship that is not all consuming to the point of being a priority over other key responsibilities (family, work etc) , but appreciate from what I’m reading that for many it’s way to suggest a sex only based relationship when suits without compromise.

I think the very wise SandyP has it spot on, just ask, ‘what does Casual mean to you?’ And then you can move forward or politely retreat and mark down as ‘not for me’.

Great to read these comments though.

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1408586 - 23 Sep, 2023 - 12:33PM

Also I think these casual situations are almost always controlled by the man. They will be super super keen when horny and trying to persuade you to meet. Then vanish completely when they’re not.

That’s just my experience though

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1408586 - 23 Sep, 2023 - 11:44AM

Casual for me means occasional fuck buddy. Both meeting up once in a while when the opportunity is there. No contact in between.

Ive done it a couple of times. But it’s not an affair. So not what I’d be looking for on here.

I’d never ask someone to clarify what they mean by casual personally. As chances are they will just lie to manipulate me!

I’ve also learnt to discuss specifics like how often I like to meet/messaging in between etc before sleeping with someone. So I don’t become casual without realising!!

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Paula99 - 23 Sep, 2023 - 11:32AM

Sandy P ..

Hope it works out 🙄

Enigma.. - 23 Sep, 2023 - 10:47AM

@Sandypops

Good luck 🍀💋

1408586 - 23 Sep, 2023 - 10:29AM

Great news and 🤞 Sandypops

Paula99 - 23 Sep, 2023 - 05:45AM

The definition of ‘casual’ is…..
A person who does something irregularly.😁..

In terms of IE that means a guy that just wants a bit on the side when HE feels like it ..also it could mean that your prospective affair likes to ‘hump’ everyone’s leg..
your guy could determine that an affair is a casual relationship outside his marriage…..YOU CHOOSE?

☠️……you have been warned

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Sandypops - 23 Sep, 2023 - 02:52AM

We all have a slightly different interpretation of the word casual. Surely the only way to know what another's interpretation is, is to chat and ask.
Some of us may have 'evolved' whilst being here, others may know exactly what they are looking for and won't deviate from that. I've certainly tried out a number of different approaches, to find what I really want and what works for me.
I've also found, from experience, that a man may say he wants a long term affair and be very convincing on meeting, only to vanish with some bull excuse!
I think, and hope, I'm learning how to weed out the disingenuous men but it's not always easy.

Oh and update on me .... I've tried to apply all your wonderful, helpful advice and I think I'm finally moving on from the guy who messed my head, with the help of a lovely 🤞🏼 man who I hope will soon be my ie. Keep everything crossed he doesn't turn out to be an A-hole 😂

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1509382 - 22 Sep, 2023 - 11:19PM

My experience of wanting casual generally means move on they are time wasters living in cloud cuckoo land
The site is called IE so be sincere in your needs
Gary

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1447655 - 22 Sep, 2023 - 10:39PM

Instant delete.

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