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1661843 - 12 Aug, 2024 - 09:59AM

My take would be that, rather than presume their use of the term, ask them!
As the saying goes: to 'assume' makes an 'ass' out of 'u' and 'me'!

1664445 - 12 Aug, 2024 - 09:57AM

In my experience women put casual because they don't want to be seen as potentially clingy, or maybe can't commit to something frequent. When you chat, predominately they want a stable and safe affair, rather than a booty call.

Jumping from one person to the next adds risk to your sexual and mental health, a spurned hook-up that might turn nasty and a lot of added stress to what is already a risky thing to do in the first place.

Always exceptions though, no rights and wrongs and no hard and fast rules. Just be honest with what you are after and don't lie to hook someone

1687864 - 12 Aug, 2024 - 09:21AM

Not sure why this has popped up as ‘new’ today but I’ll add my two cents anyway ..

I think casual is open for interpretation just like the body types average/curvaceous etc? I don’t see it as a huge red flag I would always see how the person came across after reading profile and chatting.

I have casual/see how it goes selected - not because I’m after booty calls but because I have no current expectations from this site and if anything I think ‘long term’ has more red flags given some stories on here!!

I have lots of boring train commutes to chat freely, but as much as I travel around it’s not set where I am each week so I don’t have set days I can just put aside, nor do I have the luxury of being semi retired to have a random Thursday free every week 😂 so that could be seen as casual ..

There is always some who are just looking for a quick bang/photo collecting etc but equally I think it just depends on circumstances and scoping people out for yourself 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Onehairyone - 22 Oct, 2023 - 12:40AM

Dress casual. Or smart casual.
Everyone knows what it means

Bobby224 - 30 Sep, 2023 - 07:19PM

Eliza Boo

You got it! Life is full. Especially if both parties are married. I thought this site was for meaningful affairs where you do actually find a sort of soul mate, so if there is regular, maybe daily messaging or calls then when the meets happen it’s worth it? You are right the meets always have to be for hours, daytime or a night a way. I know my affair enhanced my life and made me very happy.

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1447655 - 30 Sep, 2023 - 07:05PM

Work, kids, parents, friends, life is full already...once a month would be great as long as that time is quality time and not clock watching. If it's always once a month and messaging regularly that's not casual to me, that's fantastic!

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Bobby224 - 30 Sep, 2023 - 06:18PM

I had what I class as a very intimate, close and passionate affair for 10 years with a wonderful woman. We talked every day and met for meals quite regurly but only managed sex once a month or if we were lucky a few times a month but now I learn that’s just a casual relationship? It felt a whole lot more to us. Sometimes if you do really have a connection (that word that everyone uses but don’t seem to understand what it means) you can actually wait for those special moments when they finally come along.

I really hope I’ve not upset a certain female or she may again make very false allegations from a different thread from months ago!

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Enigma.. - 30 Sep, 2023 - 03:22PM

Perhaps I’m the one on the “wrong” site then

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ExoticOrchid - 30 Sep, 2023 - 11:54AM

Personally I don't have a problem with those who put "casual" or "see how it goes" ... to me it just shows they are being upfront about what they are looking for ... if you don't like it, just avoid them. What's the problem? 🤷🏻‍♀️

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1529050 - 30 Sep, 2023 - 11:38AM

Enigma.. - 30 Sep, 2023 - 09:33AM

I probably meet up with my long term lover once a month sometimes slightly sooner. I definitely do not consider it casual though? We talk in between and we’ll sometimes meet for lunch or drink in between what I call our ‘proper meets’.

I would find it hard to meet up more than that but I definitely consider our affair more than casual ?

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