Tall Dark and Handsome (TDH)
Most of the lasses are searching for the elusive "Tall, Dark and Handsome (TDH) bloke". Plus they want him to be humorous, rich, flashy cars, amazing holidays, brilliant shopping trips and lasting in bed until cows come home! I understand that if you want to dream and demand then might as well go for the sky. But are you missing the trick here? Are you discounting genuine gentlemen who might be average looking but are great human beings? They might not have six packs and"Arnold muscles", but they can be sensitive and humorous and probably great in bed as well?
So my quick question - if physical attributes are a mismatch + you want to keep the whole thing a secret affair then how much does those "physical features" matter to you? Is your end goal not to have a great time whenever you meet? Each lass over here probably has around at least 20 lads chasing her and probably she can afford to be choosy ... but does it really work out?
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brightbiguy - 22 Sep, 2024 - 11:36AM
TDHish...
I'm tallish (5'10"), I have a darkish sense of humour (shaved head because male pattern baldness is depresses me, thanks mum's genes!), and I'm handsomeish, i think...
I'm available, I'm happy go lucky, I'm London and Barcelona based
Take a chance me...
Paula99 - 22 Sep, 2024 - 08:19AM
Doubleohseven….…you need to get out more
Those people that ‘frequent’ certain u tube channels/websites that promote/self improvement and terms to label guys/women makes cringe reading 😖…the overuse of of this is damaging for all sides..low self confidence and mental health are the only winners..😕
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EmnEm123 - 21 Sep, 2024 - 08:42PM
Doubleohseven
Again, another man who thinks that if a guy is TDH he must be an arsehole.
In my experience that's not true.
As for the 'Chad' reference, there's a certain group of men who use that, quite disturbing.
As for 'Some other time, perhaps', Please, no!
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Doubleohseven - 21 Sep, 2024 - 07:00PM
As teenager, boring non-TDH John stood no chance against bad boy TDH Chad. Pretty Cynthia friendzoned John and dated Chad, then she got predictably dumped by Chad for another girl, ran back to John crying that Chad was an a****ole - who would have guessed! 20 yrs on, they are on IE. All three. Boring John complains: all the women go after Chad ! The forum agony aunts comfort him: "just be yourself", every pot find its lid! Pretty Cynthia complains: she was exclusive with IE Chad, who occasionally called her Olivia or Camilla, but he has since ghosted her! The agony aunts say: how could you possibly know he was an a***ole!
Chad doesn't complain. All these ladies keen to date him as long as he's exclusive (haha, will they ever learn, thinks Chad). It's just like school, and he doesn't even need to stare at the ceiling during maths class!
Then there's the story of the various 007s and Moneypennies. Some other time, perhaps.
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Paula99 - 21 Sep, 2024 - 02:09PM
Unwoke…
When you typed that post ….how many drinks 🍷 had you consumed….in English please 😂😂😂
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Unwoke! - 21 Sep, 2024 - 10:59AM
I've no doubt that everyone here has an idea of their 'perfect' lover - even if it's not explicitly articulated (even to themselves!). Stepping back from the unattainable we've then got various attributes we find more or less attractive in a mate so we enter a sort of internal 'negotiation' with ourselves - "I'm not keen on this but I'll accept it to get that".
The trouble is, because there are as many permutations of 'this' and 'that' as there are people on the planet nobody can identify, in advance, what mix of 'this' and 'that' they'll ultimately find acceptable.
It's the ritual mating dance we all have to go through! Does it work? Of course it does! Seven billion and counting!
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Pink Eiga - 21 Sep, 2024 - 10:25AM
Bacchus111 - 19 Sep, 2024 - 08:17PM
I wonder how many of these women that you have set the challenge to have already done just that - gone out of their comfort zone? 🤔
I can quite comfortably say that I have. To the point that I can say I know the type of man that I seek, and the type of man who is able to fully appreciate what I have to offer him.
Paula99 - 20 Sep, 2024 - 04:18PM
Bacchus111….
Maybe you should do your own experiment at dating ‘out of the comfort zone ‘ …post your results..😉
While I do agree with parts of your post you are looking at with tunnel vision…if I make a post on here I am talking from experience…it’s always good to see both sides of the coin but what you will discover is ….there is always a grey area….Yes I have dated out of my comfort zone..💭
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