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Pakman100 - 28 May, 2025 - 02:45PM

It really depends on the chemistry. I’ve had meets where things stayed light and conversational, and others where the spark was immediate and the rest… inevitable. You can plan to take it slow, set all the rules you like in your head, but when you’ve got genuine attraction, eye contact, a bit of teasing — that plan can go out the window fast.

That said, I don’t think there should be a set timeline. It’s not about how long you wait, it’s about whether the moment feels real and mutual. If it does, great. If not, there’s no rush. The best encounters tend to build naturally, with a bit of tension and anticipation thrown in for good measure.

And yes, I’ve definitely walked into a meet thinking “let’s keep this respectful and paced”… only to end up somewhere a little less respectable an hour later.

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Aardvark1221 - 21 May, 2025 - 12:22PM

Very dependent on the date, I always go with the intention that it is just a date and if we click move it forward the next time. I never suggest it but have been asked, I did but it was after a while of chatting and outrageous flirting on Whatsapp and ended up in relationship afterwards. So no pressure on either side, many who turn up are not like their pics.

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Paula99 - 21 May, 2025 - 11:43AM

It’s so easy to get ‘carried away ‘ by the moment but I always put the ankers on ….some only want a ONS but their profile stipulates something else …it’s always best to access the situation the next day ….you don’t want to be ‘kicking yourself’ …
I have done it and learned the hard way … …if they really want to see you again they will wait …😊

1785924 - 21 May, 2025 - 10:49AM

Usually by the time I have met someone, we both know what we want. I’ve had meetings when we just chatted and kissed and others where there’s hands inside clothing, fingering and bj. And if I’ve met at someone’s house then we’ve done everything. I would say just don’t hold back on the chats and make it clear what you would be willing to do on a first date.

KIRSTY72 - 21 May, 2025 - 09:54AM

Just had an upsetting experience wonder if anyone has any advice on how to deal with it. After a lot of messaging met someone for the first time and slept with them. They never contacted me again. I messaged once to ask why and they blocked me. Emotionally it is hard to take and I wish I had not done it. Anyone else had the same happen to them?

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feisty devil - 21 May, 2025 - 07:35AM

being carried away is the best part!

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sweetsarah oxford - 17 May, 2025 - 05:01AM

I like the slow build up …. Once attraction has been established. Some kissing, touching sensually on a first date shows intent and builds the desire. After that it’s all about opportunity

Snuggly Chest - 15 May, 2025 - 12:17PM

As been said , we’re here for the same thing . If it gets beyond a drink and what do you do in your spare time on a first meet, then it’s hardly a shock !

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Man_Alive_2025 - 11 May, 2025 - 09:29PM

I think it’s perfectly acceptable to have something like sex on the beach on a first date.


Oh hang on, this is the ‘what drink do you have when you meet’ thread isn’t it?

EmnEm123 - 10 May, 2025 - 04:12PM

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