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Will_CR0 - 25 Sep, 2023 - 04:34PM

I've found that the people chatting all the time either a too nervous about meeting someone in person of they are just making up things. I have been on endless chats that the person always has an excuse they can't meet up. It's best to video chat or call just to be sure you are talking to a real person. Video chat is good because you can set up an anonymous account and if you want you can leave the camera off at first.

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1408586 - 25 Sep, 2023 - 02:59PM

I think we can get a good feel of someone we’re chatting to is our type of person. But agree the only way to find out is to meet. And meeting is what this is about anyway!!!

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Secret Dom - 25 Sep, 2023 - 02:24PM

You can’t, until you actually meet. It’s easy to chat via here or whatever method you use but it’s not the same as in person.

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1529050 - 25 Sep, 2023 - 12:29PM

For me, until you meet you will never know.

I would rather meet someone face to face for a coffee or drink then you will know for sure.

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1614937 - 25 Sep, 2023 - 11:39AM

I have the opposite problem! I get the feeling that the "chat interest" is waning but we'd get on a lot better in person! So much communication is nonverbal and writing messages can really slow down a conversation. Also, most of the subtleties and nuances are lost in text, without a liberal dusting of emojies! 😉 Off-the-cuff or tongue-in-cheek comments can easily be misinterpreted and, as we all know, there are people who take offence easily.🙄 This can lead to more cautious, stilted and staid messages which are inherently less interesting, provoking or stimulating. 🤔

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Paula99 - 25 Sep, 2023 - 10:48AM

You just go with your gut feelings …sometimes they are wrong but the majority of the time ….it’s correct 👍

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Boudicca - 25 Sep, 2023 - 10:28AM

Only time and consistency will tell you if you’re right. Meeting someone early on is best too as it stops you from building a person up, thus avoiding being disappointed if they don’t live up to what you’ve created in your head based on messages exchanged.

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1623804 - 25 Sep, 2023 - 10:11AM

Like others have said trust your gut.

If we have chatted on here for a little while and I'm in a bit of doubt I sometimes reword a question I might of asked a few days/weeks ago and see if I get a very similar answer, it's the way I judge if someone might not be honest

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1539283 - 25 Sep, 2023 - 10:00AM

This is so difficult because so many wrong uns as it were are good liars

1552114 - 25 Sep, 2023 - 09:23AM

I am liking your question, I am new to the IE I often think similar, are they only saying what I want to hear and once the meet up or next stage it’s all over….
Tell you truth we shouldn’t expect the loyalty from other person as on IE we are not loyal to our partners so how can we expect someone else to be loyal to us?
May be I am new and thinking all these questions when I am chatting with other person ( probably I am not answering the question you initially asked )

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