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HippyChic - 16 May, 2020 - 11:43PM

I think if I found a bf on here, it would make me much happier, as relationships, long or short, have always been a really important thing for me. However I do value all the good things in my life as well, and I guess one of them is my marriage, so I wouldn't then resent it for "stopping" me having a relationship, as I can't meet men in the usual way. So it would be a happier marriage I think, for me. We get along reasonably well anyway, but I think it would be less effort. More easy going. Sometimes things in my marriage are a bit strained when I think what I'm missing out on, but sometimes I don't even think about missing out on anything.
Do people think that love and passion can last forever with a hubby or wife, if it all started off well, or that marriages have a sort of "sell by date"?

RicardoNE - 16 May, 2020 - 12:41PM

I've had one affair, fifteen years ago - it definitely helped with my marriage, as I didn't get frustrated with the fact my wife has a lower sexual drive than me. We got on much better. I honestly think that a partner from here, soon as we can travel and meet, get a hotel, will complete me and make things easier at home

1366769 - 16 May, 2020 - 08:54AM

Oh yes.

maturenortherner - 16 May, 2020 - 08:37AM

Yes and no. To know someone else values you and wants you is fulfilling but it can have the effect of amplifying the home life issues

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1366333 - 15 May, 2020 - 10:06PM

Absolutely. The texts keep me going at the moment...

I’m so pleased I joined, life feels a little happier.

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Paradoxicallyhonest - 15 May, 2020 - 08:04AM

Absolutely, when you are receiving attention, not being ignored, you will obviously feel more valued.
When you feel valued, you're more relaxed, less "bitter"

I have always thought paradoxically that I've been a better partner/Dad when I've had an affair.

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1350989 - 14 May, 2020 - 11:39PM

I feel no different probably because I think I should have joined the ‘undateables’ not having much luck here or at home🤷🏻‍♀️

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Hot mummy - 13 May, 2020 - 10:39PM

Yes....many reasons but the answer is yes

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PaulChapman - 13 May, 2020 - 12:22PM

Yes! is the answer, if only because I haven't had anything at home for months, and the release of my urges and pleasing a partner relaxes me and makes this already gentle and tolerant man even more so.

Dancing In The Rain - 12 May, 2020 - 06:56PM

Oh yes, definitely. If nothing else you feel life isn't slipping by...you also have something to smile, secretly about 😊

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