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AAGilfan - 19 May, 2020 - 03:06PM

I think X Factor has identified the X Factor for a long lasting relationship which is that, fundamentally, you are friends together and enjoy and look forward to each other's company. I am in a lucky position where I have had long lasting relationships from here and in pretty much all cases, we have remained friends. One of the reasons for that is that, to the extent we can, we care about the other party and are happy to help in whatever way (albeit limited). And to treat the opportunity together as being special. I believe that communication is key: and for each party to allow the other to be who they are and be happy and confident about themselves. Most on here will, to a greater or lesser extent, have had that ground out of them by years of lack of appreciation or, worse, negative comments and disinterest. It needs to be refreshing to be with that other party so that you look forward to seeing them.

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Lovemusiclove - 19 May, 2020 - 03:02PM

I’m new to this but I would imagine making sure you are both getting your needs met - and by that I don’t just mean in the bedroom.

Both will need the contact they need (whether that be intellectually, erotically etc) as often or seldom as they wish.

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Friendandlover12 - 19 May, 2020 - 02:59PM

It should never get to be any hassle at all, we all get enough of that in 'normal' life.

It should compliment, add spice and fun

Fromthestart - 19 May, 2020 - 02:58PM

Aren't all good things meant to come to an end? To make it last you both need to realistic open and honest with each other

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1364688 - 19 May, 2020 - 02:40PM

Relaxing, not adding any pressure to the amount of contact we make to each other.
Honesty

990407 - 19 May, 2020 - 01:38PM

How can we m 😭 t

Alderbrook - 19 May, 2020 - 01:13PM

Does anyone bother to read hobbies section or send virtual gifts etc ? Seems 2 areas to delete by IE

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1365842 - 19 May, 2020 - 12:38PM

All good things come to end sooner or later.Becomes a routine sadly

tender_rock - 19 May, 2020 - 12:36PM

Depends what you see as "long lasting"?

The longest one for me was 3 years and the shortest one was for 6 months. However there are people too for whom even 3 months is a long period.

The key here is to enjoy the stolen moments together doing things that you both like to do and when not together, to keep in touch with messages and these days some video calls too, when possible.

"Communication is very important whether its inside the bedroom or outside it."

OC: is there a double meaning to that question? ;)

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Buffalo King - 19 May, 2020 - 12:26PM

Hello everybody. I think it is the same thing as in all relationships- trust, honesty, communication, and the list goes on. Most of us on IE are trying to find something that is missing from our current relationship ( the married ones) and as long as you are getting what you were looking for then there is no end.
Someone’s effort is always a reflection of their interest in you.

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