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1358683 - 04 Jun, 2020 - 11:28AM

I’d always split, I’m not overly comfortable being treated to things - maybe because it’s so rare! I just feel better knowing I’ve paid my part and wouldn’t like to feel indebted to someone.

However if someone felt strongly about paying - who am I to argue?!

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sumfun20 - 04 Jun, 2020 - 11:10AM

I am always away in a hotel on business when I play, but I always pay for meals drinks etc as I'm a bit old fashioned like that and always hold the door open for a lady. I feel that if any of that behaviour were to cause a problem then we are not a match anyway.

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LLadd - 04 Jun, 2020 - 10:29AM

Surely we're all adult enough to make these decisions with the person we're seeing? I'm quite traditional I think especially on the first date a man should do it, but I've had women split or pay before too. Let's just be reasonable and reason with eachother no?

Lisaxoxo - 04 Jun, 2020 - 10:13AM

I don't pay for a hotel.
At least not at the beginning.

I pay for lunch in the hotel, I pay for lunch between meetings, I give birthday presents, Christmas presents.

But I still find nice to be treated by a gentleman, especially at the start.

Someone was saying about feeling they are paying for the sex if they pay for the hotel. As a woman I would feel the way around.
I would maybe have second thoughts that that man is with me because I am a "cheaper" date than a sex worker.

Plus, I always look at my best.

Do you like a lady dressed in a sex lingerie? A woman well look after? Yes, it costs money 🥰

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1117169 - 04 Jun, 2020 - 09:52AM

These days, it can be either or both depending on what works for you.

The automatic assumption or expectation that the man should always pay or at least offer to pay is no longer acceptable or appropriate and also introduces the suggestion that the man is paying for the womans sexual favours when really it should be a mutually beneficial arrangement on equal terms as far as possible.

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tea_coffee_me_ - 04 Jun, 2020 - 09:43AM

Every situation is different, I would always say
Talk / Discuss / Organise / Agree it before hand.

Without showing each other your payslips most have an idea of each others incomes.
Some its equal so - dutch, or take turns to choose or treat each other.
(Keep in mind that not all first private meetings go on to a second).
Some its unequal - so one may need to pay, if the other can from time to time, offer or actually pay it may be appreciated, even if declined.

For some, one may be willing and able to pay X for a hotel chain. The other it may be, I would not be seen dead in that type of hotel, so it would be up to them to cover the cost of what they are comfortable with.

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Gormlessoaf - 04 Jun, 2020 - 09:25AM

I always pay, even with Dutch woman.

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