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1358651 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 06:05PM

‘Classycougar’ - my comment wasn’t at u at all! I used to think like u too but my IE has changed my point of view. As he is very caring so it’s the good balance of both mental and physical! My comment was more targeted towards my last IE who pretended to b gentleman and after 4 months of lockdown frustration, he took out on our relationship by lying about his wife and exited without a closure!
I agree with u too!x

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Secretaccomplice4u - 04 Aug, 2020 - 06:00PM

Just a thought is this a term we should be using here

ExoticOrchid - 04 Aug, 2020 - 05:57PM

OrientalAngel80

Exactly ... hence my use of the word "expect" which seem to have been overlooked.

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ExoticOrchid - 04 Aug, 2020 - 05:44PM

I once had a first meet at a pub of his choosing ... he turned up after me and told me to get in his car ... when I wouldn't, he drove off without another word!

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1387952 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 05:40PM

In support for those women that may feel judged for 'putting out' on a first date... I've done that a few times. I'm not opposed to sex on first meets, it all depends on the chemistry, situation and mood. Have done in cars, hotels, outdoors, in their home (single guys)...

What I am against - just to make it clear - is the assumption that some men have; that a coffee meet automatically entitles them to sexual acts in their car, even when the chemistry is obviously not there.

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1387952 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 05:28PM

Lucky One 0001 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 04:32PM
"she got in and i very early on realised she was not going to be the one"

I would suggest that if she's bold enough to get in your car, she'll be resilient enough to be politely told that she's not for you. Would save time for both parties 😁

Classycougar - 04 Aug, 2020 - 04:58PM

No judgement implied or intended if the comments were levelled at me!
Just a personal comment that personal safety is critical for me!
Have fun whatever you choose to do on a first date..... but please be safe😘

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Perfect001 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 04:50PM

Thank you Pisces82....

At least there are some normal people on here that realise, sometimes something just happens....

You can't control it, it just happens....

If other people are lucky enough to ever experience it..... then I'm sure they would understand.

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Lucky One 0001 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 04:32PM

Weid one, very recent, met at a Costa coffee found you couldn't go in so had to sit in the car....
She was there before me so once she saw me arrive she came over to the car.....she got in and i very early on realised she was not going to be the one.
Dilemma.... she's in my car..... I can't just make an excuse and leave..... no, one and a half hrs later she tells me she's really enjoyed the meet and goes...... maybe I should just be a little rude and say no sorry not for me but you never like to hurt someone's feelings, do you.....🙈🙉

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1358651 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 04:32PM

Absolutely right ‘Perfect001’!
No one should judge anyone as no one could b in anyone’s shoes! I have experienced both ways. Sex was never a part of our date meet. But we connected mentally so quickly that sex on the first meet didn’t seem wrong at all! Instead he wants to see me every week not in a hotel but for other way like long drive etc. Clean and neat date with no sex. So he is just not after sex but me overall.
Now I feel that I wasted my 5 months after a guy who played well being nice In couple of meets before lockdown and then hurted my feelings by sudden ignoring behaviour. Although there was no personal fault of my own! And here he is, explaining his other hot date as an erotic experience!!
God actually saved me!!😀
I now have a much better IE with no frustration behaviour!!

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