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1394019 - 22 Aug, 2020 - 08:15PM

Sounds to me like you’re one of many and you only get attention when you’ve reached front of the queue. That sounds harsh, but I’ve been there and it sounds identical to my experience. If you’re happy with that then excellent! But if not, think about how you’ll go forward with this situation.

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Chezley - 22 Aug, 2020 - 06:55PM

Besides the fellow was only too glad to get a date and happily went on it, probably with good intentions, but just found his paramour a disappointment.

The plaintiff misery knickers should just put a sock in it.

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1332870 - 22 Aug, 2020 - 06:00PM

Don't play games, it's childish

And not all men or women are on here just to meet, have sex dump you.

The harsh reality is that if you meet someone and they don't feel a spark with you, they're not playing hard to get, not one of the love 'em and leave 'em gang, or anything sinister. They probably don't fancy you. Nothing more sinister.

Don't get hung up on it, play games or over think it, just get your gorgeous self back out there x

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M1o1xxx - 22 Aug, 2020 - 02:59PM

The point of IE fir me is a get away from the norm. If your spending time with hubby and family worrying about your IE... Maybe it's time for a new one. Dangerous territory

MrsDiscreet - 22 Aug, 2020 - 11:52AM

I do think we all come different directions and evolve while we are here. It’s easy to judge what others are doing when we only know half the story.
I joined a year ago with a clear idea of what I was looking for.
In this time I’ve learnt lots more about myself and changed a lot.
I not looking for the same thing any more. Or I’m will to entertain something else. I’ve met some amazing people along the way though who have changed me and shaped my future.

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Polycarbonate - 22 Aug, 2020 - 10:46AM

It just goes to show that men and women are equally capable of deceiving themselves and each other and demonstrate a poor ability to handle the difficult aspects of it.

But anyway Sparkle you had a good day out and made it home. You did your bit, which is more than most are accomplishing.

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1346010 - 22 Aug, 2020 - 06:59AM

I’d be concerned, it sounds as though he’s keeping you on the back burner.
Get yourself back on actively look for another IE, this is not forever.
People come into our lives for a reason or a season. These relationships have a lifespan, maybe yours is sadly fizzling out.

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1358651 - 21 Aug, 2020 - 10:57PM

I think communication is the key. Everyone has different needs to be on here on I.E. it is quite normal to seek exclusivity but be clear about it. But I also agree that there are guys on here who start all gentleman and try to tick all ur boxes but then disappear without any closure.
It’s acceptable that a person don’t get attracted on the first meet and want to disappear but it’s better if they let u know so u get the closure. I find it utterly rude if a person lies and the stop responding and ignore ur message and don’t give a closure.

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Handful of stones - 21 Aug, 2020 - 10:40PM

I think that’s normal. I have a very similar situation myself, because both parties are married, regardless if you like it or not, unfortunately but understandably, we will come second priority.
I’ve learnt to chill with it over the last couple of months and go with the flow. I do feel your pain though!

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Shymissy - 21 Aug, 2020 - 08:55PM

Play hard to get too

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