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Suzanna Foxwell - 04 Oct, 2020 - 02:58PM

an hour seems to be the limit for most people

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1388461 - 04 Oct, 2020 - 02:44PM

It all depends on your area and the condition of the roads or public transport, I live near the A12 in Essex and an hour will get me to the outskirts of London or to Ipswich/Harwich.
The other good road for me is the A120 to the M11 1hr 30 min will take me to Huntingdon which is my max distance/travel time.

gemini2310 - 04 Oct, 2020 - 02:24PM

My last IE used to travel about 2 hours to me and it lasted a very long time that was his choice to do that it's fine if the traveling can fit around your job which my job could not so everyone has to do what's best for them

Naughtysasha - 04 Oct, 2020 - 02:07PM

But what about someone who lives an hour away but can’t go out cos he thinks his missus will smell a rat. The Covid situation means that he now works from home on a permanent basis! His missus doesn’t work and they go everywhere together. So this second round of ‘lockdown’ means we can’t see each other!

Electricity - 04 Oct, 2020 - 02:03PM

That's a very subjective question....

I think perhaps better would be firstly to ask yourself how near is too risky and then how far is reasonable. At the end of the day this is about meeting someone. If you want that to be once a week, then it has to be convenient, so nearer. If you are happy to chat online and meet up less often, then further away. 🤷

I guess that I am a bit fortunate in that my work involves a fair bit of travel. Pretty much anywhere in the SE, London and South Midlands is fine. But for the longer distances it has to fit around my work schedule.

So, I guess it is more a question of think about it first and filter out anyone who is just not practical. Avoid the disappointment. Unfortunately logistics do matter.

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1352608 - 04 Oct, 2020 - 01:26PM

Trwela
Oh my goodness that sounds really sad I dont want to upset you but sounds like you have gone through a very devastating loss.
It sounds like your affair was very beautiful and I really hope you find someone soon
Thankyou for sharing.

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Trwela - 04 Oct, 2020 - 01:03PM

I have only had one affair and it was mind-blowingly stunning. I then lived near Norwich and she was the West Midlands which was 2.5 hours away. The affair started as friendship with extras and we would meet at least once a month but this would be at conferences and courses. We both travelled so were used to it. It lasted 3 years but ended with a fatal car crash on the M6. I have no regrets and have been through sadness but remember the so many good times we always had together. So in answer you your question. Distance shouldn't be a question for the right person.

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Matt4375 - 04 Oct, 2020 - 12:47PM

Living in Cornwall I would say up to Somerset which is just over 2 hours

Jake Jekyll - 04 Oct, 2020 - 10:45AM

@ Raisondetre

Totally agree with your first sentence. Quality over travel issues.

1117169 - 04 Oct, 2020 - 10:28AM

@ Naughty

I don't agree that less than an hour or 40 miles is necessarily risky, in fact it is usually less risky if you stay within the area that you usually frequent because if something untoward happens it can be accounted for and explained wheras you can't if it happens where you don't normally go.

You obviously must try to ensure that where you meet your IE and or go with them is not somewhere where you might bump into your partner of course and as most of us have routines and well trodden paths you will know where they are likely to be at any given time so that is not that difficult. There is a risk that you might bump into colleagues, friends and neighbours of course so you need to keep an eye out gor them and have a ready explanation. Its amazing how many people dont recognise each other out of context anyway.

There is always some element of risk that can't be avoided.

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