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1434808 - 02 Feb, 2021 - 10:18PM

I started an affair because I had no relations with my wife for 20 years. A woman at work I had secretly admired for years became involved with me and we had a year long affair. I refused to leave my wife and home to live with her. She found someone else and finished it. I then realised how much I loved her and begged her to change her mind and take me.
No deal and it broke me and my heart. I was, and still am a bit of a wreck. Just be careful out there.
What does that song say -
'I fooled around and fell in love'

It hurts badly. X

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1383332 - 02 Feb, 2021 - 08:01PM

Unfortunately Mother Nature sometimes deals a couple a hand that is untennable.

So what do you do if one of you isn’t ready to go quietly into the night and out of respect and sensitivity for the other doesn’t want to press the situation? Maintaining the greater good whilst trying to still be true to oneself is a massive conflict.

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428843 - 31 Jan, 2021 - 08:27PM

Sometimes exploring something is a change and can help revive a person who wants the same.We all come on here for different reasons,but at the end of the day we just want that part which is missing that being excitement and being wanted.

Dejavous - 31 Jan, 2021 - 01:29PM

It is fact of life that over a long period of time intimacy and affection will fade between married couples. You either accept this or look for other outlets IE being one option. However, don't believe that IE will be a panacea for all such problems; many on this site may crave intimacy and affection but you still need to find someone who is attracted to you. That is not easy when the first thing people of both sexes will judge you on is physical appeal, such a base criteria does not necessarily lead to intimacy and affection.

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1433650 - 31 Jan, 2021 - 12:54PM

Doesn't everyone need to be wanted? It's easy to say that once you get past a certain age that you should be mature enough to live without any intimacy.

Past affairs have taught me life is too short to be content in one's loneliness... Its so life affirming to feel that you are wanted, and desired for who you are.

For so long I blamed myself for the lack of intimacy and lonlieness only to discover that is not the case.

Do I feel guilty about having had an affair in the past or seeking one now? Honestly - sometimes but that doesn't last more than a few minutes because the positive effect having an affair has had on me.. Feeling alive again, some might call that selfish, but that's caused so much more harmony at home too

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1317379 - 29 Jan, 2021 - 08:16PM

No, I got too comfortable and put on masses of weight. So much so that my partner can't stand me and finds me too fat to sleep with.

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chef5182 - 28 Jan, 2021 - 04:30PM

My partner has MS and we havent been intimate for a while now, its frustrating as I am vert tactile, wanting to feel wanted and lusted after is pushing me to an affair, but then I feel guilty for wanting some fun with someone both in and out of the bedroom. Maybe I should accept im getting old and give up.

Louise1151 - 23 Jan, 2021 - 03:56PM

Ditttttttto!

Blondfawn - 23 Jan, 2021 - 12:04AM

Relatable! Haven't thought I looked sexy in so long, but since being on here and chatting to a few men, I have realised that I do have some nice looks. Its given me a huge confidence boost :)

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Princess0121 - 22 Jan, 2021 - 01:45AM

I think that there’s nothing wrong with an affair as long as steps are taken to ensure the other party doesn’t get hurt. However, if a marriage is dysfunctional then all affair does is prolong the inevitable.

No one should be made to feel unattractive, not sexy or undesirable in any way. No one is perfect and that’s what makes us unique in our own way. Having have had a couple of affairs on here I know how nice it is to click with someone. However, it’s always a quick fix for as long as it lasts. We just have to make the most of it. Life is too short and precious.

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