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hazle-eyes - 21 Jan, 2021 - 06:14PM

I haven’t had not had any intimatecy with my wife for 13 years. Even before that it was not frequent, she told me it was because she was worried about getting pregnant. I had the snip as a result but nothing changed. I tried everything I could to fix the relationship but it didn’t work. Without going into detail that’s why I ended up on here..

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1430687 - 21 Jan, 2021 - 11:35AM

No

Cup Cakes - 20 Jan, 2021 - 10:49PM

No physical relationship for me either ! Gave up trying after him turning his back on me too many times. Long to be held again by a man, Kisses, passion, laughter.
Someone please come and rescue me x

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RealAffair - 20 Jan, 2021 - 08:21PM

Teresa di Vicenzo - 20 Jan, 2021 - 06:57PM

No sex at home here. That all stopped quite a while ago, by me actually ..

I know this one. When sex at home feels literally meaningless, what's the point?

But as sex isn't meaningless for you then you inevitably seek it elsewhere sooner or later. You need the intimacy and affection that comes with good sex. And the affair (s) are born.

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RealAffair - 20 Jan, 2021 - 08:17PM

Goodkitty - 20 Jan, 2021 - 04:10PM

“ Ask yourself why ?”.

Exactly!

Most people are driven to an affair by their partner's own behaviour. Neglect, psychological abuse constant criticism, etc. (I'm ignoring the players and similar who need the reassurance of constant conquest)

However these partners are usually the last to recognise their own part in triggering the affair and consequently are very hurt if an affair is uncovered.

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Ceecee88 - 20 Jan, 2021 - 07:12PM

Hello

Teresa di Vicenzo - 20 Jan, 2021 - 06:57PM

No sex at home here. That all stopped quite a while ago, by me actually ..
i got fed up with the emotionless 2 minute bang once a week. No kisses. Missionary. Always sniffs into my left ear (yes really). I felt like a wanking machine. I put up with it for a very very long time, while i embarked on affairs, but then I asked myself why I put up with the charade which I’d say neither of us enjoyed. I couldn’t answer myself so I stopped making an effort, and so did he. He made me feel rubbish, but other people didn’t.

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Goodkitty - 20 Jan, 2021 - 04:10PM

When my husband found out I was having an affair, I just said
“ Ask yourself why ?”. Truth hurts. He knew. That was many years ago and he still made no effort..... I rest my case.

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SunInFlight - 20 Jan, 2021 - 01:18PM

Sexual sovereignty is a new phrase for me but you perfectly sum up, I think, so many of us feel.

When intimacy is missing self confidence takes a hit. We take a risk to find it again, but you only live the once.

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1320953 - 20 Jan, 2021 - 12:28PM

As humans we all crave attention, affection and to feel wanted.
When you don't get that within the home environment canand does knock your confidence.

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