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1444381 - 20 Mar, 2021 - 05:06PM

Probably copied and pasted too 🙈

241014 - 20 Mar, 2021 - 04:17PM

Save the essay so you’ve something to say after the first rush of messages.

Nobody absorbs an essay in a site like this anyway.

And Yes, even with the best will in the world, men have to play the numbers a lot of the time.

1244426 - 20 Mar, 2021 - 04:07PM

Really long first messages are very off-putting!

A short introduction is great. More than a one liner, but a lot less than an essay!

Purple dreamer - 20 Mar, 2021 - 12:03PM

Or the ones copied and pasted

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1434661 - 20 Mar, 2021 - 10:24AM

White Sage - 20 Mar, 2021 - 10:11AM

I agree, I think some guys don't actually read profiles and chuck those messages out scattergun style

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1217767 - 20 Mar, 2021 - 10:11AM

My least favourite message is this one :

“ So what are you looking for ? “

( shakes head and sips gin again.....)

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1100888 - 20 Mar, 2021 - 08:52AM

It depends if they have me laughing in the first sentence then I'm likely to read on.
I know sometimes it's a test to see if the person is worth the effort.
But I'd much rather have a long message than a virtual kiss, especially if the profile is auto generated with a stock photo.

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John_Herc - 13 Mar, 2021 - 09:42PM

Yep ;-)

1434661 - 13 Mar, 2021 - 10:19AM

I don't mind brief intros, as long as it's not just a lazy VK or sending a gift. It should be followed up with a nice polite message.

From a woman's point of view, we can compose a thoughtful message only to find that the guy isn't a fully paid up member so he couldn't even read it anyway. Feels disheartening after spending a bit of time into something.

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Another_David - 13 Mar, 2021 - 09:43AM

I agree that a long introductory message can be off-putting, but so too can a really brief one. The fact is, we don't know what the other person might want or be looking for (unless they specify in their bio), so you have to just do what feels right to you, rather than trying to be a mind-reader.

I do think a little comment or two that shows you have actually read a profile helps. But a noivel... no, that would be too much!