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1386735 - 05 Apr, 2021 - 05:40PM

FelicityFlaws
Sorry to hear that, but that is very common on here with the men folk I’m afraid. If you are doing all the initiating then he’s just not into you, and he doesn’t have the balls to tell you.
Move on

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1446199 - 04 Apr, 2021 - 05:35PM

After the initial burst, like a kid in a sweet shop It should just fall into place,
To where it needs to be if you having a trusting and understanding partner,

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ExoticOrchid - 04 Apr, 2021 - 12:48PM

lisa3232 - 04 Apr, 2021 - 12:18PM
lisa3232 - 04 Apr, 2021 - 12:25PM

Makes total sense to me but I suppose each to their own.
There's needy and there's needy ... what you describe is in the former ... it's not unreasonable.

I've encountered daily phone and WhatsApp/kik messages to emails every few days and everything in between ... it's all down to individual circumstances ... I don't expect hourly messages but it's always nice to know you're being thought of/missed.

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lisa3232 - 04 Apr, 2021 - 12:25PM

Reminds me of that book/ phrase
"He's just not that into you"
Trust me, if he's into you he'll message and regularly. As someone else commented, it takes no time at all to send a little message 'thinking of you' if longer contacts not possible.
We do everything on our phones ? Shopping, checking weather forecasts, setting alarms reminders. There is no reason, as long as its safe, to not send a little something most days.
There's nothing worse that not having your messages read for a day or 2 then they pop up gushing and being over attentive like it's compensation? I think that's akin to 'breadcrumbing' and gets the elbow from me.
Now I'm going to duck in case I'm called needy or whatever.
Yes, I have needs, physical and emotional and that's why I am here!

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lisa3232 - 04 Apr, 2021 - 12:18PM

Keeping in regular contact is extremely important if you're here for an "affair". For me, that includes an emotional attachment, but that doesn't mean leaving our marriages.
If you're here for "encounters" then it's not as important and you inherently wish to stay detached.
Men should take heed of this- at the risk of being shot down by some here- staying attentive, keeping the spark alive is crucial if you want something to last.
Men, put alot of effort in at the beginning, buy this reduces over time. Yes our other lives are more important but you're here because things slipped at home. Don't make the same mistake in an affair. Your contact is as important 1 year in as it is in those initial heady weeks.
Ignore that at your peril.
Some will disagree and that's fine but for me- you'll get as much out of this as you put in. It's my affair too, and if I feel taken for granted, then I'd feel like I'm in two marriages. WTF

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Chris 14093 - 02 Apr, 2021 - 11:32PM

I tend to write just once a day, late at night so my IE finds my message first thing in the morning. If I hear nothing for a day or two I put it down to him not being in a position to reply... no need for paranoia if both parties have always been honest with each other.

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1433627 - 02 Apr, 2021 - 11:09PM

I like to tx message every day especially the getting to know each other, the build up, will make meeting more comfortable and relaxed. I recently met a guy I have been in contact with since January. He is not one for messages and being my first IE experience I was not too sure how to receive that. Anyways, we met he said he would like to meet again, however lack or little response makes it hard to decipher if so or when. I guess he is keeping his options open. I thought he was lovely. But I am always the initiator of contact. Anyway i said its fine if he isn't interested just say so, so i can IE again. His status has changed so i guess he is still fishing and im boring you all lol

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1446690 - 02 Apr, 2021 - 10:53PM

Hi,

How is everyone tonight???

1383025 - 02 Apr, 2021 - 09:18PM

I like to message everyday. It literally takes a few minutes sitting on the loo to say ‘hey, hope you’re good. Missing squeezing your arse’ or something like that...

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Reef7765 - 02 Apr, 2021 - 07:03PM

With one particular past IE, we used to exchange messages via KIK throughout the day, this was all possible due to circumstances… we had an agreement no messages after 7pm …

My best friend had her email address( agreed with her) and in the event of something ever happening to me, he would email her to inform ….

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