Comments (58)

1417380 - 01 Jun, 2021 - 03:55PM

Definitely stay on here and keep talking. I only rejoined Saturday and had 3 intense days messaging someone, arranging to meet up, then today back in the real world, he's decided he can't do it.
So keep your options open

1422816 - 31 May, 2021 - 12:36AM

I think you have to meet the person before you decide if you want to pursue an affair with them. They could be amazing chatting here but you need to find out whether you have that spark. I have been burned several times by stopping all contact with others for this one guy. At the end of the day let’s all be honest about what we want, might save us some heartache and anguish. Good luck everyone. X

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gemini2310 - 30 May, 2021 - 11:52PM

I dont think you should come of till you have had several meets with someone we will never know how many others are chatting to do not put all your eggs in one basket on here

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1455329 - 30 May, 2021 - 11:27PM

Probably come off IE and work on getting to know someone away from here, otherwise it would be distracting to carry on chatting, some people get ate up letting them down.

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Skatie70 - 30 May, 2021 - 06:20PM

If you want to focus on one IE, just be honest, and let the others know that you have been chatting to another IE (as they will have been too), and that you want to give it a chance and see how things go.

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1308790 - 30 May, 2021 - 04:22PM

I've met six ladies in two stints on here, and one of those dates turned into something wonderful. A year or so later came the lockdown. So... Keep talking until you're fairly sure you have found the person you're looking for, but then it's time to shut up shop. Be honest with anyone else you've been chatting to and if they get a bit shirty, you've had a lucky escape. If a lady tells me they're meeting someone else and I'm the reserve, I respect that.

It is much worse disappearing and ghosting someone. It's happened to me a couple of times, on here and on Kik. What's that about? If you've found what you're looking for, great, good luck to you.

C'est la vie!

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1360266 - 30 May, 2021 - 11:51AM

@violent aubergine

Spot on

Wildnights4 - 25 May, 2021 - 07:04PM

I agree

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1449137 - 25 May, 2021 - 02:13PM

I havent actually been in an 'affair' yet and i wont be rushed just because im worried she may chat to someone else, i am looking for someone very special and refuse to play the magpie game. Besides, i would win quite often if i showed my hand (lol) but i want someone to want me.

With that, I actually I only have a strict policy for myself. I pause all chats if i am going on a date with someone. As for her, i don't care what she does. I have to trust her word. In the unlikely event i found out she is still chatting to others after starting an affair with me then... i would probably consider it disrespectful and would simply end it.

I dont tend to overthink this nonsense and if she really likes me and we get on great then i will likely leave the site. besides Its not hard to come back if things dont work, there are thousands of women here. Eventually, "the one" will be in reciept of my undivided affection, love and attention when we are together and persisently in my thoughts when we are not. Simples.

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J.wilk94 - 24 May, 2021 - 10:45PM

Honesty is the best policy :)