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Enigma.. - 02 Aug, 2021 - 09:07AM

For me, meeting up with someone for the first time I usually dress smart casual. Suitable footwear. Appropriate makeup and a light perfume.
There’s no point in getting all dolled up for a date especially if it’s during the day in a public place. You might/might not catch you dates attention but you’ll certainly catch the eye of everyone else in the room.
So much for a “secret discreet rendezvous”. You might as well have a flashing neon sign above your head saying... NOTICE ME lol ;-p

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Peaches1 - 02 Aug, 2021 - 09:01AM

Think there are alot of fantasists on here that expect their date to rack up wearing a tight mini dress with 5" heels. Just be yourself and wear what you feel comfortable in. If they don't like it there is no hardship. I couldn't give a monkeys what anyone was wearing (OK hate bad shoes) a decent personality overrides anything for me. Jesus after a few hours sesh in premier inn trust me you ain't gonna look your best!

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1459408 - 01 Aug, 2021 - 11:07PM

Cum cum everybody aren’t we all getting somewhat tangled up in this clothing question
I mean please as far as I’m concerned it would be highly acceptable for a woman to turn up for any date wearing high-heeled boots seemed fishnet stockings a appropriate skirt to match a see-through top with a gorgeous bra on show Maybe a jacket would be needed to cover the delights that are hidden underneath? the lady would be smelling of a delicious perfume The message she would be sending out is my body is alive and so is my mind!! so is yours? if not I am out of here my point is in the end it’s all about stimulation of the mind and the body

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1117169 - 30 Jul, 2021 - 04:34PM

@Curious980

On the right person in the right context with the appropriate clothes, flatties can be very attractive indeed.

Mens sexuality is way way way more sophisticated and complex than most women appreciate.

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1444888 - 30 Jul, 2021 - 10:27AM

As this (for the vast majority) is a secret life and no one wants to upset anyone else's home life, then dress as you normally would. What you don't want, is for your OH to say, as you leave the house, ' oh you look nice, where are you going', especially if he doesn't say it anyway.......

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1458849 - 30 Jul, 2021 - 10:01AM

And no one on here has ever messaged me to say they love a lady in flat shoes , so that is a minority

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1458849 - 30 Jul, 2021 - 09:40AM

Sportster you denounced heel wearing as those who were lacking confidence in their height , and you have only just mentioned subtle as opposed to slap now ! . Which I do agree with so many beautiful ladies look like wierd dolls now due to so much makeup

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1117169 - 29 Jul, 2021 - 08:07PM

@Curious980

What makes you think mine is a minority view?

There is a world of difference between well dressed and overdressed , between subtle make up and thick slap, and between natural skin and lack of personal grooming Discerning men know this. Women could save a fortune and a whole lot of time if they realised this too.

Less is often more

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Morton19 - 29 Jul, 2021 - 05:05PM

Pretty sure there's no correct answer to this one.

Presumably, your messaging would have worked out whether you're on the same page. If you intend the first meeting to lead to further ones, you might as well go as yourself, whatever that entails. Personally, a first date is likely to be fairly casual anyway, so I would expect comfortable over dressing up. I'm not a fan of heavy make-up, so wouldn't consider it necessary wherever we were. Casual, still means appropriate to the purpose and venue though, and feeling comfortable in the surroundings is important.

BrainTeaser1972 - 29 Jul, 2021 - 04:37PM

Dress for the venue, dress for the occasion, dress to impress

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