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ExoticOrchid - 18 Nov, 2022 - 06:05PM

Beckysharp - 04:57PM

Agree with you re the profile and the user name (purely as an observation btw) and I'm not usually that fussed on user names! I mean who wants a man whose user name is MissMyWife ... duh! 🙄

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1539474 - 18 Nov, 2022 - 05:50PM

Missmywife

All dating apps have ratio around 3-5 men to each woman ( search yourself for men and note the big number).

Now people have dismissed research on this matter, but reputable data firms have researched and the findings include;

Men have a much lower threshold so will like more women than women like men ( like as in express interest)

Women have options ovetload

As such they naturally pick the best they can

Womens inboxes receive at least 7 x more messages ( on big dating apps)

Sub 5 guys (hideous label) will be lucky to get 1 positive response per week or often nothing

No matter what people say, all the research shows heavy pre-filtering based on male attractiveness too include body type

Then after that, personify is filtered

The latest research by a Norwegian analytics firm concludes women are in general chasing the top 5% most attractive men and ‘wont settle’.
U see women online using complimentary supportive speech along the lines of ‘ go Queen, never settleâ€

1408586 - 18 Nov, 2022 - 04:57PM

@missmywife

I had a cheeky look at your profile. It’s pretty good.

What would be a no for me is your username and the fact you’re only looking for someone younger. Both give me instant ick (sorry but hopefully honest feedback will help!). Also being asked to give you feedback if you messaged me. That’s a little… unusual!

Other than that you sound great and I hope you find what you’re looking for

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Roxy 567 - 18 Nov, 2022 - 01:46PM

Well personally I just say if I’m not interested lol

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MissMyWife - 18 Nov, 2022 - 01:02PM

When do you Know?

You don’t . I don’t anyway….or do I ??
Been on this site a few weeks as a Gold member and my most noticed fault from the ladies is actually getting any feedback or response from about 95% of the women.
I have also observed most I’ve sent to are on here active every day.
I ‘m talking 45 to 54y age range
I personally write specifically to them and point out I have similarities to their wants from their profile, give them a heads up of my profile and my PW so they can look straight away, plus in the body of my text to them ask for comments … feedback
I’m not looking for an immediate response or even with a couple of days
The only excuse I can give them is they’ve got a backlog of replying to men that’s bigger than the Passport Office’s ‘In Tray.

@TheBoredHousewife have a look at my profile and tell me what’s wrong

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1553309 - 18 Nov, 2022 - 11:28AM

I’ve only been here a short time and it’s been a steep learning curve. I’ve had some lovely conversations with accounts which are deactivated the next day and I’ve had some brief exchanges with women who seem to be genuine but aren’t interested in me. The most rewarding experiences have been intelligent conversations with real ladies whom I have made laugh. They haven’t led to meetings yet because the chemistry isn’t right but I’m optimistic.


Management of expectations is key I think. If you’re expecting every pair of undies to fall off because you’ve correctly punctuated your messages you’re going to have to get used to disappointment. If you’d just like to make a basic connection with someone and see how it goes tell them that. Honesty goes a long way, even in this place.

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Pink Eiga - 18 Nov, 2022 - 08:35AM

Snakkast - 17 Nov, 2022 - 09:26PM

The only way is to have your wits about you when chatting, and meet. A person who pays you lots of compliments and tells you that you’re the one for them after only a few messages is very unlikely to mean it.

There can be an exhaustive amount of preference checkboxes, but fakes can easily tick those as well. Personally I would just chat and meet.

1529050 - 18 Nov, 2022 - 07:40AM

Beckysharp - 17 Nov, 2022 - 09:59PM

Definitely agree, until you meet you’ll never know!

Have a great weekend

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1529050 - 18 Nov, 2022 - 07:39AM

Beckysharp - 17 Nov, 2022 - 09:59PM

Definitely agree, until you meet you’ll never know!

Have a great weekend

1408586 - 17 Nov, 2022 - 09:59PM

@snakkast I always take any messages with a pinch of salt until I’ve met someone. I think for someone like you, looking for younger, slimmer, pretty… you’ll need to be especially careful. If an attractive younger woman is pursuing you or being very charming, you should probably wonder why. If in doubt, arrange a meet asap, that should give you an answer

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