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FluffyClouds - 27 Oct, 2022 - 05:52PM

Bobb20 -

Depends how personally insulted you feel about the profile as to whether you respond or not, I think most would be tempted to pw swap with someone who describes themselves as attractive or fit and athletic, it's the pw swap that reveals whether it's an accurate description.

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Bobb20 - 27 Oct, 2022 - 05:41PM

FC

Fair comment. In that case I am surprised that either men or women with these types of profiles get any responses! Especially as they are unlikely to be a Greek God//Goddess themselves!

Paula99 - 27 Oct, 2022 - 05:38PM

JohnGrey…

I have refused guys on the basis that the distance is ridiculous plus my shifts don’t coincide even before you get to the pw swap…I always reply politely 😊

The strange thing is I get asked if we can swap pws just to see what ‘we’ are missing out on. How does that work ???🙄🤔

All Day Breakfast - 27 Oct, 2022 - 05:29PM

Does anyone reply to computer generated profiles? If someone can't string together a few sentences of their own, I don't imagine they're going to put much effort into anything else. I could be wrong, but have never been interested to find out. On the other hand a funny, pithy, well-written profile always works a treat.

It's always better to have a personalised avatar pic, although the default female ones don't seem quite as bad as the default male ones. I'm programmed to click on any profile with skin showing in the pic, there's nothing I can do about it. I suspect this is normal.

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FluffyClouds - 27 Oct, 2022 - 05:28PM

Bobb20 -

Plenty of men list their requirements on their profiles. You don't see that side because you're not looking at male profiles or receiving messages from them. I've seen with my own eyes profiles where men describe themselves as athletic, when they absolutely aren't. Asking for attractive and sexy, when they aren't. Looking for someone shapely, big bust, pert bum, confident, funny. It's rife on this site.

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Bobb20 - 27 Oct, 2022 - 04:05PM

FC

I’m actually surprised the women that write the types of profiles I’m talking about, get any replies from men! In my view, they are not only sorting out the ‘weaker, and not as good looking, but they are also putting off the ‘stronger’ and great looking (or whatever terms you’d use).

Paula99 - 27 Oct, 2022 - 03:41PM

As long as you don’t go with names like ..

Hugh Jordan

Ivor Bigun

Shagalyn or Horny Biatch

Names are names but be mindful of the persons that have to read it.

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1459664 - 27 Oct, 2022 - 03:40PM

I have never dismissed a profile based on username. Most females do not offer a photo until at least some level of correspondence has been entered into. I have been rejected a few of times based on my photo. I may well have been rejected dashed on profile or user name but who can tell if I don't get a reply at all, how would a guy know?
There may be some people who don't have the good manners to say no thanks, or there are certainly old female profiles that are now inactive. The annoying but is when a message arrives saying "look we have new profiles for you", but you know that they are old because you have already written to them in the past (and they didn't reply then either). It can be frustrating when after chatting for a while, one is told "Sorry but I don't fancy you". An image is only a millisecond snapshot, and if the sender is not very good at selfies, they will never be as good as a professional photo.

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FluffyClouds - 27 Oct, 2022 - 03:18PM

The generic profiles just make me cringe. I make a few assumptions from them, the main being that they can't be bothered to even give some idea to the reader what they're about.

And don't get me started on the ones who don't even complete the section on what they're looking for. Don't they know? In which case, also best avoided.

Bobb20 -

I disagree. I think it's best to be clear on what you look like plus what you like and don't like or what you won't put up with. It cuts out a lot of flack.

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PeterPiper400 - 27 Oct, 2022 - 02:47PM

@DottyGreen - maybe it's just in my part of the country then (been looking in Cambridgeshire, and quite a few seem to max out at 45-55. Nevertheless I shall persevere. I should perhaps widen the search to London (as I work there), but I know a lot also like people more local.

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