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Sandypops - 18 May, 2023 - 03:10PM

Thankyou so much for your sensible advice ladies. I knew you be able to help.
I'm so new to this way of meeting a man that getting that mental connection is amazing, but overwhelming too. But wow does it 'enhance' the meets 😊
So I'm pretty confident I've met the man for me. We've met twice and chat every day. I can't find him on ie anymore so hoping he feels the same, but we've not had a conversation about it as I'm worried it'll scare him off.
Do I just see how it goes, or broach the subject?

1599858 - 18 May, 2023 - 02:49PM

Lust is the reflection of the passions.

1598451 - 18 May, 2023 - 02:42PM

I guess it's lust first then passionate love

1529050 - 18 May, 2023 - 02:24PM

I am def a lust with a sprinkling of good friendship.. and yes like many have been pulled down that Love route......... got hurt ..so now my outlook is different. Sometimes tho, without warning the Love feelings will be there - nothing you can do.

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1447655 - 18 May, 2023 - 11:35AM

This topic can't ever be agreed upon because 'love' is subjective. Love is like the colour green - 40 shades of it and unique to each person. But what kind of jaded awld scratchers have we become when having feelings is called 'catching feelings' - as if it's the chicken pox or leprosy?! (That's rhetorical, I don't seek answers here.) It's an unusual woman who 'likes' a man enough to want to repeatedly return to bed with him and the chemicals released don't make her feel all the feels (I can't speak for men because I'm not one, and there are exceptions of women and i wish them well).

This place is for whatever you want - hook ups, dwarfs on swings, fill your boots! But for some of us the kicks are had up on the big high wire, flying and falling. You just have to lean to almost enjoy the pain as much as the pleasure, Sandypops. Xx

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Paula99 - 17 May, 2023 - 04:55PM

Sandy pops … if you are going to fall in love then it will happen but we have all been in your position..
Yes it hurts and you will feel ‘lost’ but the next time you will learn from your experience ..

Emotions and connections tie in together and you have a fantastic Lust affair you have to have the emotional side ..

Don’t kick yourself if the worst happens ..it’s about dealing with your emotions and adapting …

No one says having an affair is easy ..hope this helps 😊

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Pink Eiga - 17 May, 2023 - 10:56AM

So often in our DMs, we have spoken to people who have broken up with their IE because one or both of them fell in love.

Lust is of course essential in a sexual relationship. But is it such a bad thing when Love finds us? Love or a deep connection can elevate the most lust-filled encounter to celestial levels.

It is how we deal with the knowledge that we have fallen for someone that is the issue, not the emotion itself. How we express our affection; so important.

A very lustful, sexually decadent kind of love-filled affair. That is my language. The other L - Limerence, maybe not so much.

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1408586 - 17 May, 2023 - 09:56AM

I have realised I don’t find purely lust fuelled sex fulfilling. I need a connection. Although that then leads to feelings… and complications

Sandypops no idea!!

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Sandypops - 17 May, 2023 - 03:59AM

So those ladies and gents on here, with experience, please tell me how I keep a level head. I'm a 'wear my heart on my sleeve' sort of person and I'm really scared I might 'catch' feelings which I know I shouldn't do as this is an affair, not a full time relationship. I've felt lust many times before but it's never become more than that. How do you prevent yourself falling in love? Keep yourself grounded? And just enjoy it for what it is, without daydreaming about wanting more.

1598075 - 16 May, 2023 - 11:45PM

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