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PonderingOne - 16 May, 2023 - 11:20PM

Think here for Lust. However you do need to have an intense deep affection for another person along with shared interest, pleasure and enjoyment to maintain the desire and passion which sounds a little like Love too! Relating to one another, being respectful and open will help maintain a common understanding and perspective as one night rarely satisfies.

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CharlieFx - 16 May, 2023 - 11:09PM

Yeah L is for lust.. I’m not wanting long term or even meaningful. I just want passion, experiences and lots of them!

boav91 - 16 May, 2023 - 10:42PM

This is an interesting discussion. I did not come here to look for love and I dont think I am really after that. For me Love is something that lasts and goes beyond the bedroom into wanting to be with the person all the time , they are your first thought and your best friend. I am not really looking for that as I want a connection yes, I want to meet someone who I can be friends with, who I can get to know and replace the lack of physicality that exists but then is that lust or something different. I see some people have affairs for 5 years which I can see turning into love but as Paula says how to you then keep the separation.

Can you love two people that intensely at the same time and would you want your IE to then become your real situation? That gets messy! I guess if there is really no love in the relationship you are in then it makes sense but I cannot see from the profiles I have read that this applies to everyone.

OOh fraught!!

bad_sally - 16 May, 2023 - 10:40PM

100% lust and living in the moment for me. Love is not for an affair.

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OurSecret02 - 16 May, 2023 - 10:23PM

Absolutely both for me. I had the most amazing very long term relationship with someone from here. It was love from the early days and she was the love of my life. Sex was incredible and lust / love was a very powerful combination during the 5 years we had together.

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1528741 - 16 May, 2023 - 08:38PM

For me love equals a LITTLE romance . Like Leah said to Han …. It’s not that way

Kookiness - 16 May, 2023 - 06:50PM

I disagree. I believe that L can indeed be for Love. Having had a LTR containing a mix of (first lust) and love was absolutely exhilarating. Keeping in mind the boundaries and realistic expectations due to it being an extra marital affair was easier than expected simply due to wanting the relationship to continue for as long as conceivably possible. It would be wonderful to be able to find something similar again.

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Paula99 - 16 May, 2023 - 05:38PM

Remember the boundaries…yes it is easy to fall in love with your IE but it will be emotionally fraught and your world will collapse

Don’t let your heart rule your head

L is for LUST

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ExoticOrchid - 16 May, 2023 - 05:13PM

Lbg11/l164 - hence the only "L" words on IE for me are "like" and "lust" ... nothing more, nothing less.

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laugar164 - 16 May, 2023 - 05:08PM

My last affair started of as lust but unfortunately the. Other person fell for the other L and it didn't end well

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