Advice for my first affair
I’m looking to have an affair to experiment with sex.
I love my husband and we definitely “make love” when we have sex but he’s never been the experimental type. I’m getting on in my age and want to see what else is out there and do something for me. I feel like it’s my last chance. I’ve come to illicitencounters but not sure where to go from here. Does anyone have any advice for me? What should I be looking for and what should I try first?
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EmnEm123 - 16 Jun, 2024 - 10:04PM
MSeaMe11
If you've signed up to this site, I think you might be expecting it to happen! 🤔
MSeaMe11 - 16 Jun, 2024 - 09:48PM
In my experience your first affair isn’t something you expect to happen. Which is partly why it’s very rewarding. Just go with the flow and let yourself be pleasantly surprised
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1678528 - 16 Jun, 2024 - 09:57AM
The thing about porn is, the stories are full of holes and yet they always pull it off.
Suzanne1983 - 15 Jun, 2024 - 09:24PM
My advice is know exactly what you are looking for so that you can communicate that to potential mates to see if they are on your wave length.
I'm simular but for me I know I'm looking to enjoy sex with someone who is into BDSM
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Princess0121 - 15 Jun, 2024 - 09:22AM
Have you tried to watch porn videos together? That might spice things up. However, the fact that you are here shows that you’re looking for new adventures. Personally. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that. The way I see it affairs were invented for a reason. Most marriages would not be in existence if it wasn’t for the affairs.
When you think about it there’s nothing wrong with a variety of different experiences. As long as you don’t get caught up in the process and end up losing the love of your life. Also, divorces are costly things and as the saying goes, ‘better the devil you know than the angel you think is good in the bedroom’ (my version).
Just go with the flow, be safe and enjoy. Hope you meet some lovely guys here and all the best. And most importantly please take your time in choosing a worthy partner in crime. There are too many guys looking to try and get laid with as many partners as they can get. And who can blame them?
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SomeGuyOrOther - 14 Jun, 2024 - 08:57PM
I'd suggest a sex therapist rather than an affair. It will be a lot less grief
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Paula99 - 13 Jun, 2024 - 07:15PM
Red dress86..
So you talked it over with your husband and it’s got more interesting so why are you here or is your husband here ?
By the way if you have discussed your situation then neither should be here ….in theory 🧐
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seduceme24 - 13 Jun, 2024 - 10:25AM
I had my first affair in my early 40s after decades of boring sex. I was as equally to blame as my wife.
After a few affairs I am now competent and confident in bed. Have tried many different things and know what I like - but more importantly how to please a partner.
I would suggest not setting too high expectations for yourself. Find someone you can trust with your feelings and desires. Be open about them, communicate the hell our of what you want....how you feel about it...and be honest about nervoursness or a lack of trust.
If you find someone you can work with, share with and who turns you on....enjoy it while it lasts but try to avoid emotional attachment.
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