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Prof Sarah Beauchamp - 04 Jun, 2024 - 11:26AM

If you and your husband "make love" then I would really question why you are here?

Instead of being on here why not concentrate on spicing up your marriage, the grass is not always greener - IMHO.

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Leowill25 - 03 Jun, 2024 - 09:19PM

I’m having a similar problem myself, from the look of the comments it’d all good advice. Don’t rush into anything Mabye just enjoy the attention and see where it goes!

ClassyLady77 - 02 Jun, 2024 - 09:28PM

It’s the exact same reason I came here.


Don’t Rush into anything, Stick to your values & never lower your standards. Just because you want an Affair doesn’t make you a slut..

If right chemistry then the exploring will cum easily.. 😉

I agree on the BDSM test. Although lots of fake doms so please be careful. It’s a weird world and I’m sure you’ll enjoy every moment, go with the flow & hold on tight! 😜

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1660660 - 02 Jun, 2024 - 08:22PM

There’s a useful questionnaire if you search bdsmtest. It’s quite good for trying to find out the types of kink subject you might like to try out.
There’s also a useful list of kink activities called kinxlist. That’s more of a list that you go an get ideas of things to try.

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Spicy Asian - 02 Jun, 2024 - 08:05PM

yeah I had the same - love my husband but sex was really boring and I'm far more open minded and adventurous - so just nice to talk to others who are more aligned with that and take it from there

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kscv2-303 - 02 Jun, 2024 - 05:41PM

So the way I first approached this with my partner without directly asking, was to watch some documentaries like the C4/C5 types that go into sex workers, swingers, puppy festishes, polyamorous relationships etc. I'd suggest I want to watch it as I know people who are into some of these and would be good to understand it more (this was all true) but the motive was to trigger discussions about her values and viewpoints and what would she be like if (for example) I randomly started spanking her. Turns out in the end, some things, people don't think they like, they really do and don't realise.

What kind of extra curriculars interest you? Look for someone who's experienced at introducing. Spanking, blindfolds, fine. But choking, knifeplay etc. you don't do it with someone who'll "give it a try" their first time when it's your first time too for obvious reasons 🙄

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Paula99 - 02 Jun, 2024 - 03:29PM

Jasmine19…

You are in a sexless marriage according to your profile …so you alone know how difficult it is to communicate… …not sure how long you have been married or whether you have a family but mine is 30 years and whatever I do will not change my situation…..sadly 😁🐶

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NEastx - 02 Jun, 2024 - 11:25AM

Just got for it: life is too short. If you enjoy it, then you know it was right for you. If you don't you can put the idea back in the box and move on, knowing you've scratched the itch

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Spicy Asian - 15 Apr, 2024 - 09:06PM

I'm the same - I love my husband but sex with him is very boring. I'm much more open minded than him and this is a great place to explore all that

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Jasmine19 - 09 Apr, 2024 - 09:01AM

If you're still sexual with your husband before you have an affair try suggesting to spice things up with your husband. He may feel the same but worried to ask for things.

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