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MagicMouse321 - 24 Apr, 2024 - 10:10AM

If you're not feeling the same as him, and therefore not wanting to do the same things as he is suggesting ...you need to say so. Spell it out to him. You can call it a 'courageous conversation' but being blunt is also being crystal clear.

And what happens if you don't say anything? He continues on ...hoping, suggesting, trying, ...but you're both wanting different things.

Stop and reset the relationship - set out on the right foot, in the right direction, both together.

1643275 - 24 Apr, 2024 - 09:43AM

Don't do it. Meeting your IE is when you see the best of each other for a day, afternoon or evening. An overnight is far too much like a full on relationship for my tastes, rather than the escape of an IE.

1408586 - 24 Apr, 2024 - 09:12AM

I agree with Dawn- unless you have an obvious excuse I wouldn’t risk it personally

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1664311 - 24 Apr, 2024 - 08:59AM

It depends entirely on your personal circumstances, the key one being do you ever stay away from home normally? If so, then use / duplicate the same excuse as your normal routine, perhaps you're travelling to another of those darn training days, or you're seeing clients in Glasgow? Maybe you go to gigs halfway up the country and Barry Manilow is finally playing Cleckheaton! There has to be a plausible, normal reason to be out overnight and you'll have to have a whole back story made up to go with it, including details.

If it's not normal for you to ever be out overnight, then a sudden "excuse" is going to be an enormous red flag to your spouse and I'm afraid to say puts you at a big risk of being found out. At the very least it's going to set some alarm bells ringing. If this is the case, I'd stick to evenings, if your IE is worth their salt they'll understand.

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