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Minx23 - 29 May, 2024 - 09:10AM

I feel it's hugely important for both parties to be safe. My sister knows. Not the intimate details or personal details of who I'm seeing. She is aware of my movements. Discretion does not include ignorance of ones risk factor. I have my own personal tracker and if a potential partner has an issue with that then he can choose not to meet me. I will be open to the fact. I've had a sore experience and until you do, and I hope you don't, you will not fully understand why I protect myself this way.

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Crystal Ball - 25 May, 2024 - 04:01PM

I haven't told anyone. And I can't see that I will. I understand a woman confiding in someone for safety reasons. But for me, nope, I'm likely to keep this secret.

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Stocs991 - 25 May, 2024 - 02:21PM

Alas not told anyone..... Most would be upset but think they'd understand if they knew what's going on in my marriage. Why put the burden of this on them... everyone has enough of their own stuff going on.

1662557 - 22 May, 2024 - 02:01PM

I do, I have a couple of friends that know. Firstly for safety when meeting someone, I can tell them where I'm going etc and I check in with them. Secondly for a cover story. If I meet someone off here then I use my friends as a cover story and they have my back

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Secretmeetings - 20 May, 2024 - 09:00PM

I would never tell anyone, the whole secrecy bit is all part the fun for me.

R Deckard - 20 May, 2024 - 08:52PM

NFW

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1533797 - 19 May, 2024 - 06:43PM

None of my friend know I like to have this secret to myself and make my own judgements xx

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Somniata - 18 May, 2024 - 09:36PM

No, and I must say it's a heavy and hard secret to keep to myself!! I've come so close to saying something to my best friend or my cousin but hmm, decided it best not to.
Interestingly I have made a couple of friends here! They started off as a potential affairs obviously but we just drifted off into friendship. It works well because we are confidantes and there's little chance of them saying the wrong thing to the wrong person because first we don't have mutual connections and secondly we both have something to lose, if we betray each other.

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Maximus 55 - 18 May, 2024 - 02:24PM

Definitely not

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thenakedfarmer - 18 May, 2024 - 11:36AM

Id never say to anybody, nobody. Make sure you don't break down ..ha
For the ladies I can completely understand why they feel the safety reason to tell a close friend. Id think a close male friend maybe. Obviously not friends with hubby ..
You must trust them implicitly and I don't think you really can too easily these days. A previous lover would be a good start as a confidante .. just my 2 pennies.