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tmn2024 - 14 Apr, 2025 - 08:54AM

I've had back and forth messaging with quite a few people on IE. Three went past the first few interactions, all of them seemed really promising. The first two suddenly just stopped replying to me after tens of messages, very hurtful. The third - we were getting to know each other for about a month, seemed to hit it off very well. Met once for coffee, subsequent feedback was glowing. We arranged for lunch on Saturday, but on Saturday morning I woke up to a "Dear John" and her WhatsApp profile photo was gone.....which I believe means I was blocked. And now I'm back to square one. Decided to login this morning, my reasons for being here still exist, but not sure if I'll ever find what I'm looking for.

Cheryl Kim - 13 Apr, 2025 - 04:36PM

Roofpitched17 - 13 Apr, 2025 - 02:07PM

It’s a decent enough profile. Tells people what you’re after, and nicely laid out without labouring on.

Roofpitched17 - 13 Apr, 2025 - 02:07PM

Would you have any advice on my profile please?

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Discreetfun80 - 13 Apr, 2025 - 12:38PM

You might have just been unlucky! I find if the chat beforehand has gone well, then the first meet usually goes well and it moves on from there but I have met one coffee date that I just didn’t want to go to bed with, there was nothing wrong with her I just didn’t get that ‘I’d like to bed you’ vibe, she was exactly the same as her pictures but I wasn't just in it for a quick fix! After the meet I texted her later and explained, she was great and totally understood, I wouldn’t have ghosted her, that’s not on at all.

Secretdateguy0871 - 13 Apr, 2025 - 10:58AM

Im new to this site but have neen on simular sites. I've met women and gone on to have tremendous relationships. The biggest pain is the intial contact as it costs money to msg someone and i think its just plain rude when they ignore the message or even worse say hi and then ghost. Manners and politeness cost nothing.

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Smoothsailing77 - 11 Apr, 2025 - 12:08PM

Ghosting is a horrible trait which I thought was only done by gen z but sadly I have been proved wrong. I’m not sure whatever happened to a polite ‘thanks but no thanks’

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Marc2023 - 03 Apr, 2025 - 08:16PM

good evening

marklondonengland - 03 Apr, 2025 - 10:55AM

This one keeps coming around... man ghosted by 4 women asking 'how do I get a second date' without even asking 'is this about me?'

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Funguy77 - 03 Apr, 2025 - 10:53AM

Hey @Timber77,

Your profile looks solid—it’s unique and gives a good sense of who you are. In this space, women are constantly being bombarded with messages from all kinds of guys, so standing out is key. Personally, I’ve never met a woman who can resist someone who can make her laugh—humor goes a long way.

One thing I’d suggest tweaking is the line, "I can be whatever you want me to be." It could come off as a little cheesy or cringe depending on how it’s read. Just a small observation from my side.

Also, keep in mind that not all women are necessarily looking for a relationship. Some are just after a fun, no-strings-attached situation or someone who can absolutely F-ing blow their mind in bed. It’s worth considering what type of connection you're aiming for, and how to make that clear.

Hope that helps!

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Timber77 - 03 Apr, 2025 - 10:06AM

Sorry, but can't help. I'm struggling to get a first meet. Not sure why because in real world I get interest fairly regularly. Can tou advise what your skills are in getting a first date 😁

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