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Enigma.. - 16 Jul, 2024 - 09:04AM

Unfortunately there is no way of knowing, before a date, how that date is going to pan out.
You might have thought the date went well but the other person might think differently.
Even a second date is no guarantee of leading to anything further.

But it is rude of the ladies not to have messaged you with a reason why they don’t wish to see you again.

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leggysheila - 15 Jul, 2024 - 11:34PM

One night stand for me x

Happyhooker27 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 11:23PM

It takes nothing to be nice and if you don’t fancy them just say,
You can say there is no spark but don’t crush them or ghost them you don’t like it when it’s done to you.

I have never used the video chat feature,

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Funguy77 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 08:08PM

@ Beckysharp - 15 Jul, 2024 - 07:31PM

All you south of the border have more options than us up in the wilderness lol Edinburgh only has a population of 500K and Scotland max 5 million lol what’s London like 9 million I can only dream of the opportunity .

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1408586 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 07:31PM

He’s very likely London/SE

Jonnydieppe - 15 Jul, 2024 - 07:11PM

How!! I’ve yet to get anyone to get past my first few messages 😂

Funguy77 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 05:52PM

@ Hey boys ;-) - 15 Jul, 2024 - 04:34PM

Think I would slap someone who said I didn’t realise how chubby you were…. Can’t beat a wee chubby lol

Pink Eiga - 15 Jul, 2024 - 05:14PM

The voice and video note idea that @The_Fit_Gent suggested is a good one. Personally, I never meet without first having done these. Not fool proof, but it has saved me a lot of time and pointless meets. A man I ended up having a beautiful long term affair with took me on a virtual holiday with him when we first started chatting. It is about the sex, yet for the discerning individual, sex isn’t everything, especially if a longer term IE is what you are looking for.

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Hey boys ;-) - 15 Jul, 2024 - 04:34PM

I know exactly how you feel. It would be nice just to have an honest discussion afterwards with someone. I would much rather be told they didn't realise how chubby I was (if that's the case) and wernt feeling it than sat wondering WTF because they ghosted.

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1686467 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 04:27PM

Although relatively new here compared to some the approach I have always intended to take, so as to mitigate the risk of these situations occurring, is to first send my connections an intro video of myself at the IM stage.

Firstly, this tells them you're confident. One lady I did this too the other day was taken aback by it (in a really good way) as she'd never had anything sent to her like it in all the time she'd been on IE..

Secondly, videos and voice messages can be a big ice breaker and provides both parties with a good idea if a meet will actually go the way its intended and with the desired results.

Lastly.. its also an opportunity for one of the parties to do a quick runner before a lot of time is wasted engaging in days / weeks worth of conversations. ha ha

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