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Funguy77 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 04:19PM

See I thought I was going about it wrong by having slightly lengthy chat at first. I really do prefer a face to face coffee as I quite enjoy the awkwardnessssss lol it that just me

Wold love to meet someone right now

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EmnEm123 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 02:38PM

But he has had second dates, hence the question is he holding something back until then?

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FluffyClouds - 15 Jul, 2024 - 02:27PM

Meeting face to face is the deciding factor for a lot of people. Whilst messaging gets you so far, building a rapport and hopefully that then leading to a date (coffee etc), it can also be the make or break. It's a personal thing, some just aren't what you were expecting or there was no chemistry. Though, I think your ladies should have given you the reason for not wanting date number 2 rather than just disappearing.

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MagicMouse321 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 02:24PM

With five dates in a few months, all of which have ghosted you? My suggestion might be a bit odd to others reading but I would get to know your next date a little more before you meet them as you might find that you might naturally screen them out before you meet.

Text, leave voice notes, exchange pictures, double check that they want to meet, perhaps even highlight your insecurities.

Above all be truthful. Else guess what? they'll ghost you purely because it's to much like hard work to sit you down and explain what they have since found unattractive about you.

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1685539 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 02:20PM

Can you pass them on to me please and I will ask them for you on our dates!

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Purple dreamer - 15 Jul, 2024 - 01:47PM

Wow 4 meets you must be doing something right , and they must like something to get that far
Why the ghost is beyond me they should just say if they do not feel the connection

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1685008 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 01:05PM

4 meets in a few months sounds great to be honest.
Were you ghosted straight afterwards or a few messages then nothing? Like the others have said it maybe they had others lined up too and clicked better.
The only thing you can do is be yourself

EmnEm123 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 12:19PM

Yes, I would be asking the same question as Beckysharp. Is there something that you're divulging on a second date that's somehow off putting?

If the answer is yes it would probably be best to include it in your profile. If someone doesn't like it at least you've been up front and honest.

But four meets in a few months? You must be doing something right!

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1408586 - 15 Jul, 2024 - 11:39AM

Any kissing after first or second meet? I think that’s a good indicator of chemistry. Are you revealing a ‘deal breaker’ for them on second meet? Something you may think is innocuous.

It’s likely they’re meeting others too and just clicked better with someone else. Going forward keep the first couple of dates to a low key drink to ensure you’re not getting your hopes up too soon or spending £££ on dinner then getting ghosted 😬

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FitSensation - 15 Jul, 2024 - 11:21AM

If you had a date but got ghosted while lining up follow on dates, then they were just being polite and didn't like you enough.

Or if you want to feel slightly better and to add some balance to the feedback, they might have had the "shopping list" approach and will therefore be forever disappointed, missing out by never taking a leap of faith. Either way they weren't for you!

Take it on the chin, rise up and go again. The stars will align eventually, you will have a date and just click with your IE and never look back

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