Tall Dark and Handsome (TDH)
Most of the lasses are searching for the elusive "Tall, Dark and Handsome (TDH) bloke". Plus they want him to be humorous, rich, flashy cars, amazing holidays, brilliant shopping trips and lasting in bed until cows come home! I understand that if you want to dream and demand then might as well go for the sky. But are you missing the trick here? Are you discounting genuine gentlemen who might be average looking but are great human beings? They might not have six packs and"Arnold muscles", but they can be sensitive and humorous and probably great in bed as well?
So my quick question - if physical attributes are a mismatch + you want to keep the whole thing a secret affair then how much does those "physical features" matter to you? Is your end goal not to have a great time whenever you meet? Each lass over here probably has around at least 20 lads chasing her and probably she can afford to be choosy ... but does it really work out?
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Doubleohseven - 11 Sep, 2024 - 12:13AM
Most people who try to will fail to have an affair. It's got nothing to do with ladies wanting TDH (as guys complain) or guys wanting someone 20 years younger (as girls complain).
The reason is that most people are, well, average. Average looks (which, for someone middle aged, usually means...below average). Average personality (i.e. dull). Average sense of humour (i.e. boring). Average, average, average.
An affair is about escapism. And who wants to escape with someone average? Nobody. Not even someone average.
The average middle aged overweight shop assistant fantasizes about the TDH lover she'll never get. The average middle aged overweight office worker dreams of the slender gym instructor in lycra he'll never meet.
Each perennially complains, in thread after thread, about the unrealistic expectations of the other one.
How boring. And how average.
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Pink Eiga - 10 Sep, 2024 - 07:36PM
Every man already knows to give the woman who wants ‘the finer things in life’ a wide berth.
And every woman knows to steer clear of the man who holds such misconceptions about women.
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Al1979 - 10 Sep, 2024 - 06:38PM
It's definitely not all about TDH for me anyway...there definitely has to be an initial attraction but the chat has to be good. Then when you do meet in person it's all about the chemistry. I'm not interested in job, car, money etc...good communication, being treated well and feeling comfortable with the person is more important to me 🥰
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ExoticOrchid - 10 Sep, 2024 - 01:57PM
Sounds to me like the OP himself is in a fantasy world ... where on earth has he come across such "lasses" he describes here? 🤔
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marklondonengland - 10 Sep, 2024 - 01:22PM
Nobody is expecting to meet a supermodel, but at the same time why have an affair with someone who is less interesting and less attractive than the partner you have sitting at home? A woman asking for a man to be handsome is not actually saying "I want enormous biceps and abs" - rather she is saying that you need to at least look after yourself, be groomed, and reasonably fit... after this basic "physical attribute" hurdle then it comes down to whether you are interesting or not.
This one sounds like a guy who is 150cm tall with a belly like someone on Bullseye who is pleading "I am interesting really girls..."
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1702476 - 10 Sep, 2024 - 01:03PM
My man is missing the point.
But I’m not going to say why. Not here anyway.
If you had worked out the secret you wouldn’t just tell everybody would you?
Enigma.. - 10 Sep, 2024 - 12:37PM
Any woman who has a list as demanding as that is either a fantasist or delusional 😆.
So when are these women going to find the time to go on these amazing holidays and brilliant shopping trips?
Can they actually fit into a world of the rich? Fast Cars? Expensive hotels? Expensive wine and fine dining. Designer clothes and handbags etc… ?
Can they tell the difference between a shrimp and a salad fork?
Fake looks and clothes etc will get spotted in seconds.
Primark or Matalan doesn’t cut it.😉😂.
Or are they, as I suspect, going to stick out like sore thumbs.
You need to know how to speak, act, what to/and not to wear etc… in that kind of world.
Reality check…
Males from certain social classes will not be looking for females on a site like this lol.
So get a real.
Stick to reality and not a fantasy that’ll never happen.
Disney this site is not lol 😂.
Best laugh I’ve had in a while.
Me… I like Mr Average 😉😊.
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Parrot-Fish - 10 Sep, 2024 - 11:26AM
I'm an optimist and believe there is someone for everyone, even for me.
I think the lasses the OP speaks of are self selecting themselves not to be my IE.
I realise if you are inundated with messages, photos are a simple filter but I'm seeking more. In fact, at the end of my reasonably detailed profile, I have given instructions on how you can persude me to share my PW in your first message. (No takers yet 🙄)
However, I'm the exception that breaks the rule: 6' 2", darkish hair (grey beard) and I defer to my photos....for the last part 😉.
Paula99 - 10 Sep, 2024 - 10:58AM
Who types these bloody questions ?
No brains…
No common sense…
No empathy for others
No sense of moral decency..
Woke ..😕
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ClassyLady77 - 10 Sep, 2024 - 10:05AM
Good question..
Keeping an affair secret is rule 101 and is seperate to physical attraction..
It’s all about chemistry and I seem to have chemistry with bald men.. everyone has a type, being honest about it is always best policy. . It’s also how a man treats me and if they’re just only about sex But also a friendship..
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