How much do you actually trust your IE Partner?
I have been fortunate to find a great match on IE. We messaged for a while
and got on great, well enough to arrange a first initial meeting with no
pressure on either of us to take things further if we didn't have a good
connection. All went well and we quickly arranged a first private meet up
and it went so well that that we have since enjoyed being with each other
several times. My only issue is that my IE partner has said that he is
happy and fully committed to our exclusive IE affair, but he has continued
to use and pay for the services of this site long after his subscription
ended. I think I already know the answer to my concerns and gut feeling on
this, but before I act on it, I would like to seek out other opinions and
advice!
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Comments (34)
Paula99 - 19 Apr, 2025 - 06:20AM
tmn2024…
You have your own mind !!!!
Why would you ‘allow yourself to think that there is only the two of you ‘ in this situation….you both have regular relationships at home so that’s 4 to begin with …
Realistically speaking you just need to be a little more laid back about it …you are not looking for someone to ‘fill’ the position of your wife….if you don’t have expectations then you won’t be disappointed…there are genuine members that want ‘exclusivity’ but it’s not guaranteed….😊
Peaches1 - 18 Apr, 2025 - 11:50PM
Get rid love. The person is a pro! IE bike!
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tmn2024 - 14 Apr, 2025 - 12:35PM
I am relatively new to this world of IE and affairs in general. My learning so far is that no matter how much you think you can trust an affair partner, or how much you want to trust them, you really cannot. Every prospect I've had so far seemed to be progressing nicely until boom - they're gone in a puff of white silence, never to be heard from again. It's like you're on a phone call and you're not sure if the person you're talking to is still on the line. So if that can happen even before much time passes, I imagine then that unexpected things must be expected at any time from anyone.
I think I actually wouldn't mind so much if a partner wanted to remain open to others or wanted to keep fishing. What really gets to me is when they allow you to believe that it's just the two of you when in fact they are away doing something different. It's that dishonesty that really makes me wary of everyone on here now. And the irony of me complaining about dishonesty when I am on this site myself is not lost on me!
Benaughtynowpleasethankyou - 14 Apr, 2025 - 12:16PM
Of course you can't trust individuals. People here are cheating on their long-established husbands/wives. If they're not committed to their partners (with whom they share children with/mortgage/finances/memories etc) then they won't be committed to anybody else. People have been having affairs forever so marriage is hypocrisy...ergo: Don't get married!
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Fergy69 - 10 Apr, 2025 - 03:34PM
I think it is a common thing, I’ve noticed it too.. maybe thinking there is something better out there 🤷🏻♀️
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Cheryl Kim - 06 Apr, 2025 - 01:34PM
So we find our IE online, because we ourselves have logged on and are searching for them. Conversely, we don’t find them online. Does that mean for certain that they aren’t on another site, or perhaps deleted and taken on another persona?
I think we can have a good guess about our IEs over time, and trust them accordingly. But they, like us, are cheating on their partners. Best to be realistic, communicate mutual expectations, and make sure we stay safe and healthy, whoever we go with.
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Paula99 - 06 Apr, 2025 - 09:36AM
It would be nice to think that ‘exclusivity’ is a guarantee that your IE will be ‘true’ (ironic really) to you ..I know lots of guys/women that only want one IE…but there are others that want a little more .
Whatever you think you require …you can only trust your IE to a certain extent …unless you have been in a long term contract and you are firm friends and can talk to each other about anything and the boundaries are clear and concise ….
Being in a third party relationship takes some hard work and you have to evolve and adjust to the changes that apply… there are tears and tantrums along the way but the support you receive can help you bridge the gap in your marriage make life more fulfilling and gives you a coping mechanism..
My longest affair …I trusted him with my life and I don’t think I will ever meet anyone like him …he remains my friend and confidant to this day …😊
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Doubleohseven - 06 Apr, 2025 - 12:38AM
It's not unusual for men too to find one's "exclusive" IE back on site. If she logs in once a week, she may just be checking if YOU are still on site - quite innocuous. But if she logs in daily and has a "status unknown" tag, then she's monkeybranching and it's time to pack one's bags or rather, ask her to pack hers. Unless, of course, she's a fabulous and addictive lover and one you'll miss sorely, in which case why bring the abstinence crisis forward! Enjoy it while it lasts and be ready for the time when, sad face and tears, she'll tell you that she can't see you any more because she has to move for work reasons. Or has decided to make it work with her hubby. Or has found God. Nod sadly, say you understand, and move on.
Purple dreamer - 31 Mar, 2025 - 01:15PM
Ask him and then go with your gut !
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