Health condition
I have been diagnosed with osteoporosis and am at times in pain. But……. I still have the desires and urges of many woman who loves spontaneity and lust. How easy is it to find an IE who is open to this and at what point do i tell them that I’m not going to be swinging from the lampshade and may need some imagination from us both?
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Ian1123 - 23 May, 2025 - 08:49PM
and remember they are the lucky ones , we all come in different packaging
Paula99 - 23 May, 2025 - 05:25AM
It is important that if you have a serious health condition then you be upfront about it ….sticking your head in the sand and hoping it will go away because your hormones are raging is ridiculous…..some medication can affect other parts ….beware what you are already taking then adding certain medication may put a strain on your heart …the OP has osteoporosis… while that is very debilitating it won’t kill you …
In my profession I can save your life but I am not supposed to be with you and I can’t risk getting caught in a compromising position…🫤.
Secret Victoria - 22 May, 2025 - 10:07PM
Being open and upfront is paramount when it comes to establishing a good relationship and health issues are so important to talk about. I have had affairs with two men who had type 2 diabetes. As most of us know that can cause erectile dysfunction. Man number one was very upfront about it from the onset and that led to many years of complete sexual and emotional satisfaction. Man number two didn't disclose this until after we went to bed together. Don't get me wrong, we had a great relationship but always the thing getting in the way for me wasn't the obvious but the fact that he didn't tell me.
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rarity23 - 22 May, 2025 - 05:40PM
I'd say if you have found someone genuine you have agreed to meet them either tell them just before you meet on the first date itself.
If they are genuine, they'll like you for you and not be bothered about the condition you have.
Hope you find your special man x
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bornagainvirgin - 22 May, 2025 - 01:22PM
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The use of pillows etc, anything which helps you be more comfortable.
As with any relationship, consideration for your partners comfort , pleasure and level of involvement should be paramount anyway. A partner worth knowing is going to be willing to work together, for both of your enjoyment, & you will be surprised just how much can be gained from exploring together to find what works best.
On a personal note I find that the endorphins, which are released from a satisfying sexual encounter, are a powerful painkiller & make it a truly worthwhile experience on so many levels.
You are still a woman with a woman's needs and desires. Don't let your illness define who you are!
Good luck .
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bornagainvirgin - 22 May, 2025 - 01:14PM
As someone who suffers from long term health issues, one of which is a general pain condition , I can completely empathise with your situation.
Believe me that it is perfectly possible to have a fulfilling sexual relationship in your situation without resorting to lampshade swinging or wardrobe jumping!
Yes you will need to be upfront with a potential partner, & there will be those who run, but when to bring it up can be difficult to gauge. But definitely before you get to the point of meeting.
Personally I find it good to mention that I have health issues during messages or chats, but don't go into too much detail initially. Questions will follow if your potential lover is sufficiently interested to know how it may affect a relationship. It's up to you to decide how much to share but ALWAYS be honest, explain that it does not detract from the desire for a full relationship nor does it make it impossible.
If it gets to a meet then you can have a frank discussion about how various positions etc...
marklondonengland - 22 May, 2025 - 01:04PM
You should be upfront about it so you filter out the deranged idiots who think that sex needs to be a challenging marathon to be fun. I did once meet an IE who had pain from osteoporosis and we had a lot of fun together and have remained in touch even though she is now too unwell to consider anything intimate. If you are with someone who has imagination then there is no end of pleasure you can give each other - it does not need to involve any lampshades...
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Paula99 - 22 May, 2025 - 12:35PM
You and only you know the amount of pain/discomfort you are experiencing….None of us are getting any younger but I am sure there are some that will treat you with the respect that you deserve..
Happy hunting ♥️
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