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Spicy Asian - 10 Mar, 2024 - 06:04PM

yeah totally agree - when I get a massive first message i find it really weird

leggysheila - 14 Feb, 2024 - 03:18PM

Kept my profile short and sweet 🍬 when I send any messages again they to the point x Lets face it what are we really looking for on this site x

1648583 - 14 Feb, 2024 - 02:07PM

I agree, sum your profile up in a few words, or otherwise that first date will have a few uncomfortable silences…

1641403 - 07 Feb, 2024 - 03:32PM

@suebra is that just a crafty way of getting your inbox to light up?

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1642471 - 07 Feb, 2024 - 01:56PM

Indeed, I wish there was a connection option for a quick hook-up lol
I get older reading the essays and constant to-and-fro of tedious messages.

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Blue22978 - 05 Feb, 2024 - 08:40AM

Yeah feel like it’s just copied and pasted to every female with no thought or effort.

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FluffyClouds - 04 Feb, 2024 - 05:11PM

It depends on what your own conversational style is. I have received long VK's because their profile is long. But I don't expect to receive a long first message. The most important factor for me is that they've read my profile and commented on something within in.

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1646007 - 04 Feb, 2024 - 04:08PM

Certainly not. It shows focus, attention to detail, effort and - hopefully - intelligence and education.

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1636787 - 04 Feb, 2024 - 01:57PM

I suppose it all depends on what prompted that first message.
As a man I understand that most women will probably get bombarded with comments. I imagine they may lose the will to live if they have to read War & Peace.
I tend to be as short as possible in my comments. I will normally find something in a profile to reference or comment on. If not if the profile I'm replying to has a lot of words I'll reply with the same, if little is there to read I'll keep my reply short.

DateMate - 03 Feb, 2024 - 12:24PM

Can't say it bothers me whether I receive a vk, one liner or an essay. Initial contact is only to say hi I'm interested, have a look at my profile and let me know if you want to chat etc. Personally I send short messages to establish if they're still looking for someone and that I'm interested. I can't see any point in wasting people's time. May actually help if I upgrade rather than just looking at the moment 😂

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