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Yourbabygirlie - 08 Nov, 2023 - 09:43PM

I’d say that checking in once a day to chat is reasonable. Sometimes people do get busy and genuinely can’t respond but if they were interested, they’d make the effort to chat you or check in with you on a daily basis.

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Monicas55 - 27 Oct, 2023 - 09:50AM

Daily in my view

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Sandypops - 26 Oct, 2023 - 04:18AM

I need regular chat so much so that I've put that fact in my profile 😂 That's an important factor for me, though I'm also mindful that not everyone can chat a lot. But surely everyone has some point in the day when they can bounce some messages back and forth 🤔 and my biggest frustration is chatting away to someone and suddenly they stop conversing and they've gone to bed! Seriously, just say 'off to bed now' if you're mid chat 🤦🏻‍♀️
If we can't chat a lot, I know I'm going to get bored so there's not much point continuing. Though if I like the man, I will work harder to encourage more conversation. But my best connections have been where the chat has flowed naturally and seamlessly and we've both been on the same wavelength with regard to chatting with no extra effort from either person.

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Paula99 - 24 Oct, 2023 - 04:05PM

POP69

This place is ‘overthink ‘ central 🙈

princeofpassion69 - 24 Oct, 2023 - 03:00PM

It really is different, I suppose that the contact might be a lot more frequent at first and then settle down into a nice rhythm, but don’t overthink it is the simplest advice! ;)

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Paula99 - 18 Oct, 2023 - 07:33PM

It all depends on the type of guy you are involved with …some like to text avidly and send pictures and jokes but others just like to check in now and again ..

Everyone is different..

If you’re lucky you can choose the guy that suits your type of communication…

I can do great comms with the ‘right’ guy ..

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Bobby224 - 18 Oct, 2023 - 06:55PM

@Enigma @Beckysharp

I totally agree and understand everyone’s circumstances are different and every affair is different! I’m sorry Enigma you had that experience basically with an insecure man. If your work and home life situation had been explained and his then you both have to respect that if not walk away. Becky sharp is correct i think it is very hard to change the way you comm but it can work on different levels. Like I said I have had two meaningful long lasting affairs. One would just enjoy checking in, in the evening and that was enough and if she had a spare hour or so on an odd evening we would have some fun. The other woman would like to chat for hours about her day etc every evening and a few messages during the day! So different kinds of commas but basically the same as we liked some contact daily if possible.

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1408586 - 18 Oct, 2023 - 02:33PM

I think if comms styles don’t match it can become a problem very quickly. If one wants multiple messages a day and one wants a check in every week…

And changing our style of communicating can be really hard!! And probably not realistic in the long term

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boav91 - 18 Oct, 2023 - 02:01PM

@Mister.e.Mann

I did not mean to say everyone had to do what I do but we both fell in to that. WE both like it like that but it wont work for everyone. Different strokes so to speak.

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1408586 - 18 Oct, 2023 - 10:24AM

Exactly Mister E Mann!!!! But I do think it’s important we match with comms as much as possible.

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