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Paula99 - 29 May, 2025 - 05:38AM

Picture hunters are a scourge of online dating …there are people that constantly take pictures of themselves and expect others to reciprocate…..unfortunately they have arose from a generation that thinks it’s ok to take images/record others and pass it over the internet..
This makes me run for the hills because I have my boundaries …utilised them for my personal needs and not because ‘everyone is doing it ‘ …

Pakman100..

Great post ….moderation is the key

Pakman100 - 28 May, 2025 - 02:52PM

I’ve had long, meaningful affairs without ever sharing my last name or where I work. It’s proof that trust and intimacy don’t require full disclosure — just honesty, consistency, and respect.

Having been stalked in the past, I’m especially careful now. I don’t share personal identifiers early on, and often not at all. Discretion isn’t just about protecting myself — it’s about respecting both lives involved.

That said, I still value depth. You can have strong emotional and physical connection without compromising safety. If someone needs full access to your real-world identity to feel close, they’re probably not the right fit for this space.

Boundaries don’t kill chemistry. In my experience, they protect it.

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DramaFree&Easy - 17 May, 2025 - 06:02PM

Cheryl Kim

My initial thought was that guy was broadcasting also. He most likely has a high opinion of himself and enjoys taking selfies all the time. Personally I couldn’t think of any faster way of getting blocked! Some mornings I just don’t look myself until the second coffee has kicked in at around 11am.

Catfishing is the weirdest online dating faux pas though. If that ever happens to me again, I’m going to save the embarrassment and just reverse catfish and pretend to be someone else and get out of there pronto.

DramaFree&Easy - 17 May, 2025 - 05:44PM

@Paula

I’m merely interested in the matter, I’m certainly not advocating for those who haven’t got much further in life than collecting football stickers. There should however be a balance.

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Cheryl Kim - 17 May, 2025 - 09:21AM

DramaFree&Easy

The same type of photos every day, with the same words. It’s as if it’s 9am, and picture distribution time to all and sundry. Not that I mind, nor complaining. I am just saying it is unnecessary.

Btw it is easy to catfish, even with multiple photos. Sending multiple photos doesn’t guarantee a meet either. Anybody who knows me will know that I am no prude, but it is obvious when they want to see more and more, that a proper meet in person, for genuine affair partner making purposes, is the last thing on their minds.

Paula99 - 17 May, 2025 - 07:46AM

Drama and easy…..ooops sorry free

So you think that sending lots of pictures every day is going to get the other person more interested?…to me it just proves that you don’t care about discretion and in my experience it leads to more ‘definitive ‘ images ..
Why should I stake my privacy on some random guy who was clearly sharing his body pictures with other woman ….I call that reckless..

As Cheryl Kim says all those images are unnecessary

Remember images are never deleted and the less of me on the internet the better..

Enigma.. - 17 May, 2025 - 06:52AM

Two days ago I received a message from a male location West Yorkshire saying we had messaged before and he was still waiting for my photo password!?! 🤷🏼‍♀️.
I messaged back that he had the wrong lady and why would I be interested in someone from Yorkshire when I live in Ayrshire, Scotland and I won’t be sending him my photo password for that reason.
I thought it was rather odd 🫤.
He messaged back saying that I had demanded his photo password 🙄🤷🏼‍♀️🤣.
Total crap as I don’t ask, never mind demand, male members for their passwords.
I prefer to wait until said male member ask’s first.
I was left with the impression that he was yet another picture collector hoping to land lucky and get a few titillating screen shots.
The lengths certain males will go to now… desperation indeed 🙄🤷🏼‍♀️😏😂l

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1741546 - 17 May, 2025 - 06:01AM

If comfortable with someone, I'm happy to swap phone numbers so we can text. Most information I keep fairly vague, such as where I live, work, surname. I have previously had a stalker, so initially I am cautious.

DramaFree&Easy - 17 May, 2025 - 12:32AM

@Cheryl Kim

At least he was consistent.. was it at all reassuring to know that the person you were messaging looked like the person you eventually met with? I once had the awkward experience of meeting someone from a dating app that had shared less than recent pictures of their self, at least 10 years past. The difference was startlingly obvious.

Life is a beach - 17 May, 2025 - 12:13AM

Keep your personal information close to you.
Once you have built a relationship with your IE, I can't see anything wrong if you want to share more details.
Be very careful at the beginning and proceed with caution on your affair.