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Cheryl Kim - 06 Apr, 2025 - 01:34PM

So we find our IE online, because we ourselves have logged on and are searching for them. Conversely, we don’t find them online. Does that mean for certain that they aren’t on another site, or perhaps deleted and taken on another persona?

I think we can have a good guess about our IEs over time, and trust them accordingly. But they, like us, are cheating on their partners. Best to be realistic, communicate mutual expectations, and make sure we stay safe and healthy, whoever we go with.

Paula99 - 06 Apr, 2025 - 09:36AM

It would be nice to think that ‘exclusivity’ is a guarantee that your IE will be ‘true’ (ironic really) to you ..I know lots of guys/women that only want one IE…but there are others that want a little more .

Whatever you think you require …you can only trust your IE to a certain extent …unless you have been in a long term contract and you are firm friends and can talk to each other about anything and the boundaries are clear and concise ….

Being in a third party relationship takes some hard work and you have to evolve and adjust to the changes that apply… there are tears and tantrums along the way but the support you receive can help you bridge the gap in your marriage make life more fulfilling and gives you a coping mechanism..

My longest affair …I trusted him with my life and I don’t think I will ever meet anyone like him …he remains my friend and confidant to this day …😊

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Doubleohseven - 06 Apr, 2025 - 12:38AM

It's not unusual for men too to find one's "exclusive" IE back on site. If she logs in once a week, she may just be checking if YOU are still on site - quite innocuous. But if she logs in daily and has a "status unknown" tag, then she's monkeybranching and it's time to pack one's bags or rather, ask her to pack hers. Unless, of course, she's a fabulous and addictive lover and one you'll miss sorely, in which case why bring the abstinence crisis forward! Enjoy it while it lasts and be ready for the time when, sad face and tears, she'll tell you that she can't see you any more because she has to move for work reasons. Or has decided to make it work with her hubby. Or has found God. Nod sadly, say you understand, and move on.

Purple dreamer - 31 Mar, 2025 - 01:15PM

Ask him and then go with your gut !

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JustMe2949 - 28 Mar, 2025 - 10:05AM

Communication before judging

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ExoticOrchid - 27 Mar, 2025 - 11:12AM

P99 - 05:21AM

Exactly!

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Jellybean1980 - 27 Mar, 2025 - 09:13AM

I experienced a similar situation to this at the start of my IE affair. It seemed he was saying one thing and doing another. We talked about it and everything turned out well and good and trust was restored.

All I can suggest is to talk to him about it. Communication is key in any relationship, including IE affairs xx

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Paula99 - 27 Mar, 2025 - 05:21AM

It’s in his interests to use up all of his subscription…let’s be honest …how many profiles are there when you click on them and it says you can’t view this person ? ….there are delays at times and Admin will be in no hurry to delete your profile …😉
To the OP….how do you know he’s an active user….you are here checking up on him….you are doing the same ?…. Be cool about it…if he’s a known philanderer then he will show his true colours…then you move on ….Simple

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Marcusr93 - 27 Mar, 2025 - 01:39AM

Hey

ExoticOrchid - 26 Mar, 2025 - 11:15PM

I'm interested in how the OP knows her IE is continuing to be a paid member here ... 🤔

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