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1367118 - 30 Apr, 2020 - 04:56PM

I came on here on a whim really same as most people marriage gone stale I've met someone on here who in a million years I would not think would be attracted to me but were really hit it off...we haven't met yet but only because of lockdown but that's given us more time to get to know each other beforehand it's really boosted my confidence and actually outlook on life so if that's how we view increasing our own desirability it's a big yes from me

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removalizer - 30 Apr, 2020 - 04:47PM

But then you ladies get a boost every day from all the messages you get from us guys doing all the leg work ?

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AAGilfan - 30 Apr, 2020 - 04:45PM

Suzanna F..... if you are struggling with grey knockers I suggest you go up a couple of cup sizes Or maybe get straight round to Rigby & Peller once lockdown has finished - if it was good enough for the Queen then it should be good enough for anyone..... 😂😂 Although I think I read somewhere that M'aam had fired them for being indiscreet

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1357867 - 30 Apr, 2020 - 04:44PM

To feel wanted and 10ft tall. Makes you feel confident which makes you attractive... I’ve found I get more smiles from guys as I’m feeling good about myself. So it’s a win win all round

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Simplypete999 - 30 Apr, 2020 - 04:43PM

Hi, my first time on here ‘Hello’

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1376887 - 30 Apr, 2020 - 04:38PM

@lillib you are right that some people are mean. It’s not a dating site, but it is for illicit encounters which to me is an affair, not a one off encounter in a supermarket car park.

I had a first message today asking if I wanted to join a 3sum or 4sum. How’s that an IE?

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1359558 - 30 Apr, 2020 - 04:34PM

For me having the odd affair wasn't about feeling more desirable at all....it was more about coping with the lack of intimacy in my marriage which I wasn't able to do anything about. We had become just very good friends with kids to look after.... and not lovers.
IE and introduction sites like it help you find someone in a similar position who is not necessarily looking for the full relationship thing but a more a FWB.

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1376887 - 30 Apr, 2020 - 04:31PM

I think It’s a boost to your confidence to feel desired, in terms of both your company and attraction. When you’ve lived with someone with zilch sex drive and they’ve lost sight of you as a person, you feel non existent. I want to feel wanted, I’ve had that twice before on here with two fantastic men. I’ve been away for a while, now I’m hoping to be lucky enough to find a third IE.

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1368132 - 30 Apr, 2020 - 04:29PM

I'm with ClassyLady77 on this one.... It depends...
If you have confidence in you being you (not arrogance) it makes no difference.
However,....
The feeling you get when somebody is interested in you cannot fail to give you a a boost.....
Breaking free of routine and societal pressures may not be easy, but if you believe in yourself despite all the knocks it shines through...
If being here helps too then fantastic... 😁

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Lillib - 30 Apr, 2020 - 04:28PM

Definitely it makes me feel more desirable and at times makes me feel like shit. We can’t be judgemental, some are not on the IE because they don’t feel desirable with their spouse. It may be they want more or a different type of intimacy. Some even need a listening ear or a friend to tell your secrets. Not that I’m saying that intimacy is not what we are mostly here for but some men are so mean. Sending you all sorts and even saying this is not a dating site but for sex. Not to mention the ones that expect you to be a model.

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