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Legs&Eyes - 25 Dec, 2023 - 09:36PM

Wow.

Hasnt this thread touched a nerve. I have a view, and some strong bitterness and reaction comes out because of it from someone I am no threat to...

Singles get the abuse here - this is a prime example.

Very judgemental.

Ho, ho, ho....

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Delicious Chaos - 25 Dec, 2023 - 08:34PM

L&E

I’m certainly not naive nor do I wish to walk in your shoes.

The facts are if you are married with kids you have more to loose. With a married comes a financial commitment , a wife and children. If you’re single it’s different. My view and I’m entitled to give it as are you. I’m talking from experience are you?
I would never date a singleton again

Merry Xmas 👍

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Legs&Eyes - 25 Dec, 2023 - 02:19PM

- If you don't know me, you dont walk in my shoes
- If you cant see there's a balance to be had with losses happening both ways, then you are naive
- 'Loss' is not exclusive to one side over the other - its the person, the character and the situation that's relevant to each individual
- When my first IE allowed his phone to be discovered, unlocked, his whats app messages, real names, my photos - then yes, there's an example of when blowing MY cover to be discovered by a wife - can be disastrous for me.
- If I wanted to date singles I wouldnt be here - would I??

So judgemental here. As the OP suggests on the post.

Merry Xmas..... be kind. We are all here for our OWN reasons, but to suggest blanket sweeping statements about one category loses, and one doesnt - is wholly inaccurate.

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Delicious Chaos - 25 Dec, 2023 - 10:28AM

And yes I know I’ve got my looses and lose mixed up.
Merry Xmas 🎄

Delicious Chaos - 25 Dec, 2023 - 10:04AM

Legs & Eyes

Really?!

Why would you as a single? Why would you loose your job or house if you were having an affair? What you do in your personal life is no one else’s business unless you’re bringing the company into disrepute. An affair, no? Having an only fans account or doing porn, then quite different.
You are single! They are married possibly with kids so yes they have a hell of a lot to loose. And yes it’s their choice and the risk they take.
I would suggest perhaps you just date singles then if you have so much to loose!

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Legs&Eyes - 24 Dec, 2023 - 11:14PM

'Marrieds have more to lose.........'

YAWN!!!!!!! Pass me the Pringles, and my Prosecco is running dry.....

It appears to be a statement mainly made by Marrieds.... how would a married person know what a single person has to lose, or not, if discovered to be dabbling in the married market??? If you dont know the single person?
Trust me, some of us have a lot to lose... the roof over MY HEAD goes if my status is blown/employment ends/lack of morality is questionned.... AND as Ive repeatedly said - if my choice has always being to NOT have a husband of my own, I certainly dont want someone elses!! Ha, as if!

Why do marrieds think that everyone wants to belong in that club? The number of guys here having affairs is exactly why I dont want one of my own... my choice, we dont all want to be stuck at the kitchen sink wondering if my husband is dabbling here..I'd rather be the affair than cook and cleaner. Thanks!

Where's the Prosecco?....

Merry Xmas all!

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Life is a beach - 24 Dec, 2023 - 09:42PM

Probably married people feel a little bit safer with other married people. I do understand the comment of not wanting to rock the boat.
I also agree with the comments from the single people a little annoyed at married perhaps not fully understanding of your single situation.
I strongly believe we are all learning. Personally to me it is refreshing to be with a guy in the same situation, however, if he was single I would very Probably choose him again

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Paula99 - 24 Dec, 2023 - 08:16PM

MarkLondonEngland ….

Many married people do prefer other married IEs…but they also like singles as it does make it easier as you have a place to meet …

The attachment you speak of is slightly different for me …I would never go into an affair with a guy that has recently divorced/separated as this situation brings complications…as they have not’ healed’ from their previous marriage/partnership which then tends to interfere’ with your new affair…😔

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marklondonengland - 24 Dec, 2023 - 07:02PM

I have used IE just after a divorce when the last thing on my mind was getting a new wife. The issue is about attachment though. Many married people will have a strong preference for a married IE because it reduces the risk of getting too attached. I was always very open about my situation then - I think that's all we can do...

Delicious Chaos - 24 Dec, 2023 - 06:20PM

I think in some respects married people definitely have more to lose then a single, that’s obvious, but yes a bunny boiler for example could have any ‘status’ and not limited to a singleton.
There are those here that are discreet and there are those that aren’t. It has nothing to do with their status

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