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tea_coffee_me_ - 03 Jun, 2020 - 05:57PM

" IndelibleMark - I think men tend to have different conversational interests...while women are often a lot more interested in ....."

Generally I must agree. Growing up at family gatherings, as had heard all the female mutterings time an time again, (I could also catch up later), I tended to join the male conversations as I grew.
I had no interest in football, cricket etc however sometimes there were some other topics discussed that just never seemed to come up with female conversations.

As I worked in male dominated offices i found this too.

Yes female friends can be great for helping to speak out about problems and talking often helps process which can help settle the mind support the given feelings.
Males often want to SOLVE a problem, I always want to solve a problems however they are such, that no one has a solution for :-(

Yes there are generalisations, however as long as we accept that they are general and NOT absolutes, everyone happy?

gemini2310 - 03 Jun, 2020 - 05:57PM

Honestly butterflies when you get a message from them mind blowing love making and a very romantic guy who understands if the date is cancelled through work or family this has to be understood from the start from me I like to buy my IE little gifts and visa versa this has all work perfectly for me in the past

762219 - 03 Jun, 2020 - 03:58PM

I may not be a typical example of the human Male but I find politics dull, I don't like football ( I mean what's the point of shouting at a TV anyhow), I don't like beer.........

But getting back to topic, I met a wonderful lady on IE about 6 years ago and I like to think we had a great thing going together for more than 18 months. Sadly her circumstances and relationship needs changed or I think we would still be together. I consider myself very lucky for having known her.

My thoughts on the matter are if you want the affair to last, then be completely honest with yourself and your fwb from the outset about what you are both looking for from your relationship. There is no point in having an affair if what you really want is a new or replacement partner/spouse.
Its only my opinion of course........

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Yorkshirerugby - 03 Jun, 2020 - 03:00PM

To be fair @summer2020, I do like blue. ;)

Respect, time, understanding and caring I would think would make for a long term IE. But I've no experience to base that on yet.

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1387758 - 03 Jun, 2020 - 02:52PM

I'm with Lisaxoxo, so let's talk politics indelibleMark. Do you watch the daily briefing? of course you won't find Boris there much, he's too busy being fodder for the likes of "cold war steve". You should check him out. He's hilarious, much like your recent post. 😉

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Lisaxoxo - 03 Jun, 2020 - 02:37PM

@indelibleMark you have been very sexist and your comment is full of unconscious bias.
I am a woman, a sexy woman, a feminist super feminine and my favourite subject is Politics - right-wingman is a deal breaker ha ha 😉

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1387758 - 03 Jun, 2020 - 02:33PM

What, did indelibleMark really just say that. WOW.
And all men like the colour blue, and women prefer pink.
Haha some of you on here need a boot up the arse.

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1260412 - 03 Jun, 2020 - 01:39PM

I agree with Tazzy63, so much so I was thinking of sending her a message, before realising he is a man. I think men tend to have different conversational interests, eg World War II and politics, while women are often a lot more interested in personal relationships, hence Grey's Anatomy. I may just be saying the totally obvious...

sumfun20 - 03 Jun, 2020 - 11:20AM

I have been lucky enough to experience a long term relationship from this site so I know it can happen. I am back on here for the first time in 8 years and hoping to find that special one you can bond with, whilst the sex part of an affair along with the passion and the anticipation is amazing there just has to be mutual respect and appreciation for each others home situation. For instance its sometimes difficult to answer messages when you are in your other life at home and thats where the respect and understanding comes in. Now we have whats app etc im sure keeping in touch is going to be so much easier as I find the odd message from your lover really brightens your day and puts a spring in your step. I find sex with a new friend is so much more rewarding than sex with a stranger, so the longer the relationship the better the sex becomes in my experience. J

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1386447 - 03 Jun, 2020 - 10:01AM

Find someone that stimulates you mentally and physically. Be respectful, be friends, use Kik to chat between meeting, learn to sext courageously......dont fall in love and/or put pressure on the other.

Have had a couple of affairs that have lasted years.

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