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1117169 - 22 May, 2020 - 11:43AM

If things become intolerable and you separate or divorce yes, but otherwise marriage does not expire but changes according to where the couple is in their life cycle.

Firstly its a lust based union, then a parental partnership, then a marriage of convenience.

There are three main stages when you can get off the roundabout

When the initial lust ( Limerance) wears off and / or you meet someone else who sweeps you off your feet and you have no kids

When the kids are no longer dependant on you.

When the mortgage is paid off and you realise that life is short and you have a final chance to live by yourself or find someone new.

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Macali76 - 22 May, 2020 - 11:29AM

Everything has an expiry date

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Songbird478 - 22 May, 2020 - 11:21AM

@TwoBitCoins
That last paragraph 💔
So true

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TwoBitCoins - 22 May, 2020 - 11:13AM

Marriage does not have to have expiry date.

It is gentle but constant erosion, sometimes un-noticed until suddenly something major falls off.

We are all human, well intentioned to our partners (as witnessed by the fact none of us want to upset what we have) but we are less than perfect.

Personally speaking - as soon as you stop sex and intimacy you are doomed because the intimacy repairs the damage caused by that day to day erosion

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Teresa di Vicenzo - 22 May, 2020 - 11:11AM

Marriages change. Whether they ‘expire’ is something else. As has been said before, things make a marriage adjust, be it children, job stresses, ageing parents, difficult families etc. They all play their part in changing us as people.
As we get older, if we fundamentally ‘get on’ with our spouse then the marriage will just tick along and before you know it you’re married 30-40yrs. The last 15-20yrs you haven’t physically touched each other because you don’t fancy each other any more. But lifestyles can make it tricky to leave, or just unwilling to leave / face the situation. If both are ok with that, fine. If not, well, we’re here .
So I think sexual chemistry has an expiry date. How we each deal with that is our own choice.

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HotChoco - 22 May, 2020 - 10:57AM

It expired when Police took me away from him for safety ....

😔

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1366769 - 22 May, 2020 - 10:52AM

@Yorkshirerugby
I only have a milkshake, fancy a swap with that champagne ;) x

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Songbird478 - 22 May, 2020 - 10:50AM

Well... certainly not in the way a packet of ham does!! Information is pieced together and a prediction made on when it will be past its best... and then one for when it would be harmful to eat!
This is an interesting one... because it very much depends on the combination of humans. So for some, the marriage expires almost at the point of saying “I do” because that’s a change, a shift in dynamics for that partnership. As @Yorkshirerugby points out; children, work commitments play a part too as do financial worries, moving house etc...
So any expiry date is only due to the sum of that marriages parts?
Marriage often becomes a business partnership, a well oiled family machine but as humans we often need more.
Passion, excitement and escape from the norm... so I think... perhaps a marriage has a “best before” date!!

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1334304 - 22 May, 2020 - 10:45AM

Quite a general question.....
Of course marriage can easily expire by divorce or separation or if it’s expiring by the lack of chemistry then yes I believe it does happen, hence why a majority of us are here....

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Yorkshirerugby - 22 May, 2020 - 10:41AM

It's 10:40 I've got champagne any care to join me! ;) x

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