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1625733 - 02 Oct, 2023 - 11:48AM

I would always offer to pay.

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Davieg1969 - 02 Oct, 2023 - 11:28AM

Go dutch

OscarWinner - 02 Oct, 2023 - 10:38AM

I would always pay the hotel bill initially, not to make it a transactional thing or to make a point, I just think that's how it should be done. Of course, if the hotel meets become regular then absolutely the costs should be shared, that's just a conversation you have about it being a an arrangement that's beneficial to both parties isn't it?

1529050 - 02 Oct, 2023 - 09:37AM

O this is an old tread - I am waiting for the same ol' usual comments to re-surface.

For me - the man pays end of. I used to go halves or sometimes pay. Now I don't. I am very clear and up front with this, and if a man does not want to do this then - then they are free not to continue.

I will bring food and some lovely wine, and because I adore sexy lovely lingerie I also bring that. Sometimes I feel what I have spent is more than the hotel room.

Each relationship is different and each affair is different, does not make it right or wrong. I am sure I will get called all sorts because I do not pay for the room, but who cares that is my way and a guy can take it or leave it.

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Hoping1000 - 02 Oct, 2023 - 09:04AM

Personally, I would always pay, not to try and score points so to speak, just my own preference. (The lady may have paid for sexy underwear..... i would be hoping)

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1422646 - 05 Dec, 2020 - 10:25AM

If the affair becomes something meaningful and the meets frequently, I wouldn't mind paying for meals and drinks, but I would expect for the man to insist to pay especially at the beginning.

This is the main reason I prefer older gentlemen, they know how to treat a top classy lady.

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1310473 - 15 Aug, 2020 - 07:31PM

I usually pay, call me old fashioned but I like to think I'm a gentleman I wouldn't be the alpha Male in the room if I didn't ; )

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1340024 - 03 Jul, 2020 - 10:36PM

i totally agree with you its not about who pays its the connection

Morton19 - 03 Jul, 2020 - 09:15PM

Presumably you're both equal partners in the adventure, which should mean sharing the costs, unless one of you is much better off. It doesn't mean counting out every penny, but each offering/paying their share without the need for asking. Aren't we all trying to give and receive pleasure? So don't turn it into a financial transaction. That's a different game.

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WaitingtobeFound - 30 Jun, 2020 - 01:39PM

In the two hotel meets we had before lockdown he paid the first. I paid the second and he offered to give me half. I declined because the meets we have are for mutual benefit, not just his, though when we have coffee meets he usually pays.
We are in broadly similar financial situations but he hasn't worked during lockdown whereas I have. Additionally I had a small windfall during lockdown which has nothing to do with my husband as it's from my past and had I received it sooner I would have shared it with my late husband who would have been quite delighted at the use it will be put to. It has been designated a fun fund and likely will pay a few hotel bills.
Quite appalled by the suggestion that if the woman gives good sex the man pays. We always give each other our best whether we meet as friends or lovers. Saw a suggestion that girls will have gone to lengths to look nice. I do that anyway and nice underwear is a given.

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