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1386366 - 07 Aug, 2020 - 11:17AM

I think it is possible to meet week if you are close to each other geographically and can escape from work for a Starbucks coffee either at lunchtime or after work. However if somebody is even just 20-30 miles away meeting twice a month for quality time together makes sense. Once a month probably too infrequent.

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1327360 - 07 Aug, 2020 - 10:31AM

When we both can and happy to meet. I'm not looking for strict meeting regime. 5 days a week if we can. 2 days a month if that's all we can manage. Communication and managing expectations is key.

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1393321 - 07 Aug, 2020 - 10:29AM

Thank you to everyone's comments on my question, they've helped me try on realistic expectations. I haven't actually got a regular IE yet, as I'm still at the chatting and dating stage. I've met some wonderful men but there's not yet been any concrete agreement to become each other's affair. And now I'm shielding so I'm not actually going on any dates for the next month anyway, so that discussion will have to wait.

I do realise now that twice a month is more realistic than weekly. And if I really liked someone in more restricted circumstances then once a month would be fine.

Also, @plum blonde your comment about getting too close if dates were weekly is a really valid point since I want the feel of a boyfriend when I'm with him but without the actual commitment of a real one.

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1400319 - 07 Aug, 2020 - 09:11AM

Have you tried asking? There seems to be a lack of basic discussion and you are not managing expectations well. Be prepared for this affair to die in a month or two if you don't get this sorted.

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1117169 - 06 Aug, 2020 - 03:45PM

@ Candiya

If you don't work, or work part time or work for yourself then it is often quite possible to meet weekly if you are not on a tight leash that is! If you work full time for someone else, realistically your opportunities to see someone frequently and regularly are very limited indeed.

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Liltink - 05 Aug, 2020 - 01:42PM

You'll work out between you whats right for both of you theres no rules its different for everyone given home family jobs etc
But keep communicating inbetween with chats texts etc ... remember its supposed to be fun 😁

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1366658 - 05 Aug, 2020 - 12:38PM

I would love it if it would be possible to meet once a week but I guess people have other lives etc.

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MatureWorcsBBW - 05 Aug, 2020 - 12:15AM

I'd probably take my knitting along to the hotel meet.
Show him just how much our infrequent hotel meets really mean to me.

☺️

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tea_coffee_me_ - 04 Aug, 2020 - 11:44PM

"De8raT -
I had an IE a couple of years ago. He wanted to meet more often but just for a couple of hours in a hotel for sex. He had no interest other than sex. I “got rid” as a mental connection and some I like as a person is as important as any feelings of lust"

Yes some are looking for the advantages of a 'professional' minus the cost.

I may not have seen some of mine very often, however a friendship in between and time to reconnect when we meet up... before grown up time.

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De8raT - 04 Aug, 2020 - 08:07PM

I had an IE a couple of years ago. He wanted to meet more often but just for a couple of hours in a hotel for sex. He had no interest other than sex. I “got rid” as a mental connection and some I like as a person is as important as any feelings of lust

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