How often should I expect to see my IE?
I'm just wondering how Iwoukd respond if my IE only wants to meet once a
month? I'm hoping it'll be at least once a week, given the constraints of
matching timetables. But , for me, once a month would not be enough.
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1117169 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 05:10PM
@ Beardandsandals
The key is not to get caught, tried and hung at all!
Meeting every week could be possible for a few, pushing it for others and impossible for many, though I could do it more or less.
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ExoticOrchid - 04 Aug, 2020 - 02:59PM
London-lady - 04 Aug, 2020 - 11:10AM
"We treat it like girlfriend/boyfriend in our world"
There are always exceptions ... yours is an exception rather than the rule ... it's not like that for the vast majority here.
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Beardandsandals - 04 Aug, 2020 - 11:16AM
Just wondering if folk are trying to fix something that isn't broke.
You may as well get hung for a sheep as a lamb. Is one not already cheating to account for a lack of things with the spouse?
If you're that randy one partner just won't be enough!
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1332870 - 04 Aug, 2020 - 11:10AM
Yes it's an affair but there are feelings involved. We treat it like girlfriend/boyfriend in our world
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ExoticOrchid - 04 Aug, 2020 - 09:58AM
He is an IE, not a boyfriend ... you are having an affair with a married man ... this is not a girlfriend/boyfriend situation.
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Windsweptandinteresting - 04 Aug, 2020 - 09:04AM
If your happy with that then of course not a problem but if your looking for more time with your IE then you just need to be honest and let them know.
Possibly it's not that he does not want to spend more time with you but it's all the time he has but you won't know that till you ask
Plum Blonde - 04 Aug, 2020 - 12:38AM
Depends on the person .If he is fabulous and worth it ,once a month might be acceptable .If your IE has a very demanding job ,a family and a suspicious wife once a week won't happen if you are booking a hotel .Twice a month is about right, struck the right balance with me .If you live near you can always fit in the odd brief encounter for coffee or to say hello or something . Anyway ,once a week might lead to getting too close .Once a month seems not enough but it depends on what is going to happen when you meet .If it's a whole day or night and you really hit off then you have to make the most of it .Better one great person than a handful of lack lustres you aren't that in to .
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WaitingtobeFound - 03 Aug, 2020 - 11:11PM
No set rule I would say. My last ie I would have liked to have seen more of but he had to work when he could. Up to lockdown we had met about every 3/4 weeks, sometimes just for coffee or a walk in the park. We would both have liked more but remember folks, you're also in that marriage you don't want to end and have to give some time and attention there or it will in all likelihood end, even if you're never discovered, though my situation is different as I'm in an open marriage.
We had spoken, that is texted or emailed or telephoned virtually every day which in retrospect was too much and we have discussed a rekindling with less contact between meets so we will appreciate the time together more..
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