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gemini2310 - 16 Aug, 2020 - 10:27PM

OrientalAngel80

I had someone message me started chatting he said he fancied me but I need to put weight on I said omg I'm a size 12 what size do you want be to be I found that very disrespectful now he's blocked so I feel sorry for the things guy say to you

gemini2310 - 16 Aug, 2020 - 10:13PM

OrientalAngel180

So very so you get treated like that on here I hope you do find a nice guy

1387952 - 16 Aug, 2020 - 08:44PM

@ gemini2310

I get accused of being a man, looking for a sugar daddy, being an escort, having a fake profile... To name a few things...

The thing is, I've made a few good friends on here; guys who know I'm genuine, and hear all my trials and tribulations yet they're so far away from me. I chat with them almost daily and I don't mean sexy chat. Just nice chat. Comparing notes and experiences.

So, even when I am successful enough to meet a guy, I pretty much get the cold shoulder and they slowly disappear while in the meantime my distant friends still maintain almost daily contact.

Quite sad that the closest thing to a consistent, longterm, fulfilling affair are the ones I chat to that are too far away - albeit still kept a secret.

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gemini2310 - 16 Aug, 2020 - 08:09PM

OrientalAngel80

Abuse no need for that why would anyone do that so wrong in my opinion not worth your time or effort

Gilbertsourgrape - 16 Aug, 2020 - 11:29AM

Women have messaged me to initiate a chat. Mostly short messages. Which tended to sound a bit like 'hey have a look over here'. But then the expectation was for me to adopt the leading role. It led to coffee dates and one ie.

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Th3on3 - 16 Aug, 2020 - 10:29AM

@missmoneypity
That just made me laugh 😂

Secretaccomplice4u - 16 Aug, 2020 - 10:01AM

ClassyLady77,
Not every man does that- we might even wait a long time til we get a feel for how things are going.

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ClassyLady77 - 16 Aug, 2020 - 09:25AM

If there’s something in a profile that catches your eye the. Use that. It also proves you've read it..

Try NOT to make the first message about sex.. every man does that and it’s a no from me.... 🤦‍♀️

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Th3on3 - 16 Aug, 2020 - 08:27AM

I have made the first move on here in pretty much every chat I have held. As most women seem to be inundated with messages and I feel often get fed up of the volume they get, some are just scan read. So it depends on there profile what I say. If there’s something in the description that I like, I will comment on that, if there’s not much to go on but local I’ll just say a quick hi, wanna chat. But even that leads to rejection as after 4 weeks on here I haven’t found anyone who is willing to go past the ‘hey what’s your pass’. I assume that means your to ugly no thanks.....haha.

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1387952 - 16 Aug, 2020 - 07:59AM

Sportster1200L - 15 Aug, 2020 - 11:05PM
"Is it fear of rejection that prevents you (And most ladies it seems) from making the first move, or something else?"

I can't speak for other ladies but I've found that when I make the first move, 80-90% of the time, the guys haven't subscribed so my messages don't even get read.

When they do read my message, I find that at least half don't believe I'm genuine so I've given up with messaging guys. I've had aaalllll kinds of abuse from taking that first step so it's now put me off.

Some guys give me abuse just from looking at their profile. I can't help it if I like the older guy but I basically get told to back off! 😳

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