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1403173 - 21 Aug, 2020 - 12:48PM

Make it clear at the outset that you want more......you will be promised more ...until he gets a bit bored..then it will be chore for him that needs to be done in order to get his leg over every now and then.
Ladies..beware of making demands...just chill and go with the flow.....otherwise he will move you on and look for someone more ..err...secure ..who dosent need fluffing...

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1352755 - 21 Aug, 2020 - 11:51AM

This happened to me along time on ( 1st time round on IE)
He would message me all lovey dovey and arrange hotel meet
He would spoilt me and treated me so well.making me feel amazing and special. Then nothing for 3 weeks to a month!!
I need a teeny bit more from my IE
So... I moved him on 🤣🤣
I guess ,make it clear early on that you enjoy “ in between” contact too

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ExoticOrchid - 21 Aug, 2020 - 11:07AM

You say "we" have this *intense* connection ... are you sure or is it more a case of you having it and not him [except when it suits him]?

Also, if you haven't mentioned this "for ages I hear nothing" to him, then perhaps he thinks you are perfectly happy with the relationship the way it is.

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Secretaccomplice4u - 21 Aug, 2020 - 11:07AM

Suzanna Foxwell - 21 Aug, 2020 - 09:50AM

> "because their mummys tell them what wonderful attentive caring boys they are."

Not sure what group you're living in but this so far from my reality or anyone I know.
Maybe the men you're going after have learnt that they can behave in a certain way.
This is not the case with everyone.
Have those men learnt it from their mothers ? I really doubt it- we learn from our experiences and that applies to men and women. I suspect certain men and women learn what they can get away with.

> So ladies we have to re-set our expectations.
Yes - maybe you have to decide what you want ?
If you had to choose 5 out of 8 of Tall, handsome, muscular, intelligent, attentive, witty, good income, kind . Which 3 would you drop ?

> "you don't land a fish by jumping into the water and thrashing about. Or was that his line about learning to swim?"

Sounds like my dancing.

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Best Route - 21 Aug, 2020 - 10:40AM

I would just carry on searching for someone else. He wouldn't even be worth my "confrontation".
Men may be different than women and all that bla bla bla, but this is an affair...
if it isn't 99% good, is it even worth having. And that goes both ways.
Otherwise we are not happy on our marriage, then we are not happy in our affair,
When do we draw a line?

Carry on looking for someone that simply respects you and doesn't think you are an object he just dished. Not worth it xxx

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Tyr421 - 21 Aug, 2020 - 10:21AM

I’d asked why, surely you can find a minute in your day to just say hello, I’m thinking of you?

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1400267 - 21 Aug, 2020 - 10:14AM

Prioritize yourself and your own happiness.

And don't limit yourself to such IE!

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Suzanna Foxwell - 21 Aug, 2020 - 09:50AM

This is the sex who will happily spend five minutes a year speaking to their mothers on the phone and think they've done their duty because their mummys tell them what wonderful attentive caring boys they are.
So ladies we have to re-set our expectations. These men have busy lives and a text once a week in between meetings is to them sign of a huge commitment
My advice is to be patient. As my dad used to say: you don't land a fish by jumping into the water and thrashing about. Or was that his line about learning to swim?

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1403173 - 21 Aug, 2020 - 09:44AM

Sudela

Just as it should be ! :-)

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1376462 - 21 Aug, 2020 - 09:39AM

This is a tough one
I had the same issue
She told me that we should not chatting and got reconnected again and again she told me to end it.
I guess there are too many choices !!