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1434661 - 04 Mar, 2021 - 01:01PM

Smiler133 - 04 Mar, 2021 - 10:19AM
"... These are genuine examples of first messages btw..."

I believe you. I get plenty of those kinds of first messages too.

*I have a 9inch c***, come and sit on it
(I politely told him I highly doubt it and it can't reach me from London anyway)

*I'm looking for someone to spank me. Please be my Domme
(don't know where they get the impression I'd be any good at that)

*I think we'll be suited, please message bs m if interested
(too young, too far away, smoker etc... Clearly not read my profile at all)

*£200 for an hour with you in a city centre hotel
(think he's on the wrong site there but I countered with make it £400 for half an hour and I might consider it)

*I'm not interested
(following me just looking at his profile!)

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1424835 - 04 Mar, 2021 - 12:28PM

I feel like I’m pretty terrible at the whole sell yourself in a box thing, and the initial message can be equally troubling if you think too much about it...one liners are off putting, equally something long and drawn out from someone you don’t know. Personally I think it’s generally easier to move onto something like KIK asap as conversation flows easier on a messaging app and I find that you tend to get a better feel for someone’s personality.

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Pete likes wine - 04 Mar, 2021 - 12:19PM

Yes i dont read war and peace - verbal diarrhea in the written word is a turn off for me. A balance between brevity and verbose writing is a sign of quality of communication and signals to me will we get on together. I would rather talk - hear a voice even see a face ! That way we may well make a connection earlier!

Kyllian - 04 Mar, 2021 - 10:34AM

The problem is that I AM trying to get my books to as wide an audience as possible. I had no luck with publishers, so I joined IE in order to get as many women reading as possible. I do think it's really offensive when women message me - often after only twelve or thirteen chapters - with 'Look, are you going to send a picture or what?' - they clearly don't understand that the author photograph is often at the BACK of the book. I actually ended up meeting the one woman who DID read the entire novel...and she said after we had sex that she actually preferred the book.

1436596 - 04 Mar, 2021 - 10:19AM

I wouldn't judge anyone on their first message whether it was long or short, it's the content that's important.

IMO if it contains something really cheesy like "My soul aches for your presence" I'm probably going to run a mile!

Also as if it goes something like "what's your favorite sex position, fancy a s***? I've got a big one!" This will find themselves in the blocked pile.

These are genuine examples of first messages btw.

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1440527 - 02 Mar, 2021 - 12:52PM

Depends. I could send an erotic fantasy story. I'm confident you'll enjoy reading it.

1399617 - 23 Feb, 2021 - 10:13PM

Doesn’t matter as long as it’s funny and interesting

Needsomeexcitment35 - 23 Feb, 2021 - 08:52PM

I’ve tried direct in a nice way hasn’t got me anywhere yet just want to find one 😂

Abid296 - 23 Feb, 2021 - 06:55PM

I disagree. I like detailed first message. I can read the person through their writing and use of language. I usually get an inkling of the person from the words they chose and their priorities.
Besides, if someone wants to tell things, i tis important to them. I hate 1 or 2-liner lazy contacts. I find them too clever or arrogant.
Is that too a long answer for you?

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gemini2310 - 21 Feb, 2021 - 01:44PM

I like a nice long first message and I agree no heartbreaking stories or issues they may have.And i never like if anyone is disrespectful to there wife or partner we choose to stay in that relationship.

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