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241014 - 30 Mar, 2021 - 09:59AM

@Sigmaguy it’s not only the ladies who crave that attention. Plenty of men want the dopamine and waste plenty of time too.

1320953 - 30 Mar, 2021 - 09:26AM

A little text from someone saying." Morning, I'm thinking about you" is lovely to receive. Can brighten a dull day
It doesn't take long to type and send. I guess a bit of effort is hard for some. A descreet text can make someone feel wanted and valued, it can make all the difference

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Pete likes wine - 30 Mar, 2021 - 08:57AM

I must say i have struggled enormously with this and one on here will know that lockdown has been a pain at home and not much happening you dont want to be a bore and have little to say new. Well if thats blown it at least i have been honest!

1386735 - 30 Mar, 2021 - 08:51AM

Sigmaguy

Wow I have to admit first time I’ve agreed with a mans comment on here. Spot on.👏👏

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Sigmaguy - 30 Mar, 2021 - 08:42AM

Ohhh this is a really touchy subject with me. I’ve been dating for a bit of time and I have noticed that there are lots of women out there who crave attention only. Snapchat, TicTok, Instagram... full of Women who just love getting likes and the attention.

It’s like the profiles that say ‘Dipping toe in the water’ what the gel does that mean??? It means I’m not sure, I’m going to waste your time’ basically.

Emotional energy can easily get wasted on the wrong person if you let them mess with you: If someone makes you feel uneasy or you’re thinking ‘this isn’t right?’ then you should trust your instincts and move on ASAP. If you lest people treat you with disrespect, it shows you don’t respect yourself.

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Fastbum - 29 Mar, 2021 - 11:17PM

Remember when you could go out without a phone and £5
And it would get you drunk and pay for a taxi ?

gemzippy - 29 Mar, 2021 - 07:45PM

I do think men and women are wired slightly differently when it comes to expectations which is why communication is key.
I do think that messaging/texting in between meets are important and at the end of the day everyone has to use the bathroom whether at home or at work where they can send a quick cheeky message even if it's just to say hello or I'm not going to be around for a while!

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1393321 - 29 Mar, 2021 - 05:59PM

It depends on several things: if the liaison has become intimate then frequent texting between meets is natural and appreciated.

If the IE is married I would expect less and shorter messages at weekends, but everyone has a lunch break and can say hello with even just a funny picture. I have had lovely one liner conversations with a married IE. If someone is keen, they will find a way.

If the IE was single and after a week of no messages I would assume the interest was waning. If I am doing all the messaging to generate a meet I will first give him the benefit of doubt and then say something. If another week goes by and no contact from him I will start answering messages from other men on here because what's the point in bringing it up again?

But I agree with a previous comment that it is bad form to not tell someone they've been dumped. Blocking and ghosting is immature.

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1442248 - 29 Mar, 2021 - 05:19PM

It depends on those involved and what circumstances allow
If one is going to go quiet for a period, the other ought to know in advance and to know their IE is ok

Prof. - 29 Mar, 2021 - 04:16PM

In theory surely its not unreasonable to expect what you would get from a friend? And with that i know i have friends that always get back to me straight away and some are a little longer, maybe even next day or so but its not necessarily through ignorance.

Also, i do wonder if there is a slight hesitation to reply without being able to maintain a reasonable length of chat?

Although, as Teresa alludes to, if the conversation holds no substance when it does happen it would be worth bringing it up.

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